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| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Verbally Abusive Relationship Patricia Evans, 2010-01-18 |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Verbally Abusive Man - Can He Change? Patricia Evans, 2006-10 From one of the world's most acclaimed experts on verbal abuse comes the first book that answers the question foremost in every woman's mind: Can he really change? Evans goes beyond identifying verbally abusive behaviors to prescribing a course of action for both victim and abuser. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Victory Over Verbal Abuse Patricia Evans, 2011-12-18 Includes inspiring affirmations for every week of the year--Cover. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship Beverly Engel, 2003-08-13 Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out. -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse. -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them. -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do about it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Why Does He Do That? Lundy Bancroft, 2003-09-02 In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Teen Torment Patricia Evans, 2003 The author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship shows teenagers how to identify and overcome verbal abuse and bullying wherever they manifest themselves. Original. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Controlling People Patricia Evans, 2003-02-01 Learn how to “break the spell” of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Does this sound like someone you know? *Always needs to be right *Tells you who you are and what you think *Implies that you’re wrong or inadequate when you don’t agree *Is threatened by people who are “different” *Feels attacked when questioned *Doesn’t seem to really hear or see you If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people’s lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Emotionally Abused Woman Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C., 2017-11-21 “A sensible book, full of insight and hope,”* that offers support and guidance in freeing emotionally abused women from the cycle of abuse and establishing new healthy patterns of relating to others. *Booklist • Does your husband or lover constantly criticize you and put his needs before yours? • Do you sometimes wonder if your best friend is truly a friend? • Does your boss try to control your every move? • Does your fear of being left alone keep you in chronically hurtful relationships? If any of these questions sound familiar, you could very well be suffering from emotional abuse—the most widespread but also the most hidden abuse that women experience. This type of abuse is just as damaging as physical or sexual abuse. But there is help in this invaluable compassionate sourcebook. As a marriage, family, and child therapist who has grappled with these issues herself, Beverly Engel guides you through a step-by-step recover process, helping you shed the habits begun in childhood and take the first few steps toward healthy change. Using numerous examples drawn from case history and her own therapeutic expertise, Engel will show you how to • Recognize and understand the abusers in your life • Identify the patterns that have kept you emotionally trapped • Complete your unfinished business • Decide whether to walk away from an abusive relationship or take a stand and stay • Heal the damage of abuse by building self-esteem • Break the cycle of abuse and open yourself to the promise of healthy relationships |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Escaping Emotional Abuse Beverly Engel, 2020-12-29 Does your partner blame you for his or her own problems? Does your partner humiliate you, especially in front of others? Is your partner impossible to please? Are you convinced something is wrong with you? Are you too ashamed to admit you are being abused? In Escaping Emotional Abuse, Beverly Engel, world-renowned therapist and expert in emotional abuse, exposes techniques an abuser uses to break your spirit and gain control - and guides you in how to free yourself from the shame that can keep you from the life, and the love, that you deserve. By using your deepest fears against you, the abuser strips you of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity - making you feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But you possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows you how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps you jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help you heal and regain self-confidence. An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? Avery Neal, 2018-03-27 Free yourself from toxic relationships with “the new gold standard in abuse recovery” from the founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic (Jackson MacKenzie, author of Whole Again). Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office ARE YOU A VICTIM OF SUBTLE ABUSE? Are you always the one apologizing? Constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Nearly half of all women—and men—in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. In this groundbreaking book, Avery Neal, founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you learn to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you’re gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame. “This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish.” —Dr. Jay Carter, author of Nasty People “No-nonsense insights and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life.” —Dr. George Simon, international bestselling author of In Sheep’s Clothing |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage Leslie Vernick, 2013-09-17 Something Has to Change… You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to: · identify damaging behaviors · gain the skills to respond wisely · promote healthy change · stay safe · understand when, why, and even how to leave · recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future. “Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape.” —Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and The Friendships of Women |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Abuse Jim O'Shea, 2011 The book examines abuse (not clerical or institutional abuse). It explores boundaries and how abuse is an invasion of boundaries. It explores physical, emotional, verbal and financial abuse. The book looks at the abusive personality type, and examines workplace and school bullying. Child abuse is explored, and the issue of staying in or leaving an abusive environment. The question of what happens if one leaves and if it is possible to change an abusive personality is examined. A client's story is contained in the book and this gives a human aspect to the exploration. The majority of relationships are healthy, and abuse can never thrive in a healthy relationship. Love is the basis of all healthy relationships. However, abuse is common and universal. It is perpetrated by both men and women. It is found in every social, cultural, economic and racial background. This book examines five types of abuse - physical, emotional/psychological/mental, verbal, sexual, and financial/economic. The forms of abuse will be looked at in the context of intimate relationships. Bullying in the workplace, which can contain all of these types of abuse, is also explored. The book will focus on adult victims and highlight the harrowing behaviours of abusers. However, because of its importance, there is also a chapter on child abuse. Abuse is driven by toxic shame and rage, and is engraved in the biology of the brain. It is also the offspring of childhood conditioning and can be a learned behaviour, underpinned by irrational thoughts, beliefs and values. Driven by these, abusers use power and control to humiliate the victims, trample on their boundaries, and exert control over them. Among other aspects, this book will explore how the abuser tries to control the victim's time and their material resources; controlling by body language and gestures, by confusing the victim and defining their reality, by blaming, and by reducing the victim's status through demeaning behaviours, violence, sexual control, or perhaps financial manipulation. Book jacket. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: When Love Hurts Jill Cory, Karen Mcandless-davis, 2016-10-04 “Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book.”—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? What do you do when the one you love hurts you? Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask these challenging questions can seem daunting. You know something is wrong in your relationship, but you are not sure what. If you are beginning to wonder if you are experiencing abuse, this book can offer you support, information, and, most of all, hope as you look for answers. Written by two women with a wealth of experience supporting victims of abuse, When Love Hurts introduces exercises and resources to help you make sense of your relationship, addressing all forms of abuse, including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and nonjudgmental friend to those who don’t know where to turn and is filled with stories from women who have been in the same position. By drawing on your own wisdom and that of the many others who have shared your experience, When Love Hurts can help you find the answers you have been looking for. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Verbal and Emotional Abuse June Hunt, 2021-08-03 You didn’t think anyone could hurt you like this, but now that you’re in or have experienced an abusive relationship, what do you do? Abuse—whether through hurtful words, degrading looks, obscene gesture, or threatening behavior—inflicts immense pain and impedes emotional growth. We have all been wounded by hurtful words and actions of others—whether the bully at school, the demeaning boss, a rage-filled driver, or someone in our own family. We often carry those wounds with us for a lifetime. June Hunt has a message for you: it is possible to stop the pain of abuse. Learn biblical truths and practical advice on how to: Stop the abuse Heal the pain of the past Foster peace in all your relationships Learn all forms of abuse and what to pay attention to when a relationship gives off warning signs. Also included in the definitions section are biblical examples of verbal and emotional abuse. This mini-book will shed light on the characteristics of verbal and emotional abuse, words used in abusive conversations, methods of sabotage, and examples of what the victims may experience when dealing with an abusive relationship. Discover the causes of a person who abuses others and answer hard questions like, “How can he be so cruel?” and “How can she be so insensitive?” The last section, titled “Steps to Solution,” gives you practical advice on how to put an end to verbal and emotional abuse with: 7 steps to victory over verbal abuse 6 steps to an action plan 8 steps for how to confront and cope with emotionally abusive people Honesty test for those who may be abusive 5 steps to building personal boundaries Perfect for small groups and Bible studies, Sunday school, young adult and youth ministry, chaplaincy, Christian counseling, addiction and recovery programs, church giveaways, etc. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: You Can't Say That to Me Suzette Haden Elgin, 1995-03-10 You can't say that to me! Can't you do anything right? I can'tbelieve you would feed that junk to your child! What is this? Anddon't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that. If youreally cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way. Soundfamiliar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of veryunpleasant language from those who are closest to us--spouses,employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use ofunanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm,insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant;it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalatingarguments and physical violence. Suzette Haden Elgin, creator ofthe Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, has developed a unique andrevolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence andeliminate it from your life--without ruining your marriage, riskingyour job, or alienating friends or loved ones. Dr. Elgin shows youhow to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abusewith: * An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbalabuse * Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalatingarguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you alreadypossess * Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusivesituations, evaluate your responses to them, and track yourprogress In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused byhuman nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you arean expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solvethis problem for yourself, quickly and forever. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Verbal Abuse: Diary of an Abusive Relationship Emily Hayworth, 2016-12-23 Do you think you may be in an abusive relationship and want complete validation of your feelings? If you seek to understand why you are constantly traumatised and in emotional turmoil, then this book is for you.In this gripping, shocking and inspirational book, author Emily Hayworth kept a personal diary throughout her ten year abusive marriage. The author has listed in detail her experiences and emotions ranging from happiness, confusion, fear and almost madness as she journeys through the roller coaster that is verbal abuse.During the last chapter, Emily lists the different types of abuse that can occur in a relationship and gives specific examples from her diary, helping you to clearly identify what may be happening in your life. There is also a section on how you can protect yourself from abuse and create a healthier, happier future.About the Author:-With nearly ten years' experience of personally experiencing abuse, intense study and contribution to various forums, Emily Hayworth has a deep understanding of domestic violence. She made the brave decision to write this book to help others understand abuse from a personal point of view. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: In the Dream House Carmen Maria Machado, 2020-10 In the Dream House is Carmen Maria Machado's engrossing and wildly innovative account of a relationship gone bad. Tracing the full arc of a harrowing experience with a charismatic but volatile woman, this is a bold dissection of the mechanisms and cultural representations of psychological abuse. Each chapter views the relationship through a different narrative lens, as Machado holds events up to the light and examines them from distinct angles. She casts a critical eye over legal proceedings, fairy tales, Star Trek and Disney villains, as well as iconic works of film and fiction, infusing all with her characteristic wit, playfulness and openness to enquiry. The result is a powerful book that explodes our ideas about what a memoir can do and be. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Emotionally Destructive Relationship Leslie Vernick, 2007-08-15 Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to: Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt Confront and speak truth when the timing is right Determine when to keep trying, when to get out Get safe and stay safe Build an identity in Christ This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects of emotionally destructive relationships. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Redeeming Power Diane Langberg, 2020-10-20 Power has a God-given role in human relationships and institutions, but it can lead to abuse when used in unhealthy ways. Speaking into current #MeToo and #ChurchToo conversations, this book shows that the body of Christ desperately needs to understand the forms power takes, how it is abused, and how to respond to abuses of power. Although many Christians want to prevent abuse in their churches and organizations, they lack a deep and clear-eyed understanding of how power actually works. Internationally recognized psychologist Diane Langberg offers a clinical and theological framework for understanding how power operates, the effects of the abuse of power, and how power can be redeemed and restored to its proper God-given place in relationships and institutions. This book not only helps Christian leaders identify and resist abusive systems but also shows how they can use power to protect the vulnerable in their midst. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Overcoming the Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, and Other Domestic Abusers Charlene D. Quint, 2024-04-30 Overcoming the Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, and Other Domestic Abusers is a groundbreaking comprehensive handbook that contains everything a woman needs to know about how to recognize abuse, break free, and thrive. This definitive guide identifies abuse and abusers' tactics, describes the actions a victim must take to leave safely, and guides victims through the steps to find hope, healing, and a victorious life of peace and wholeness. There are a number of great books out there about the dynamics of domestic violence, but I've yet to read one that is more complete than this one. What makes this book different? It is more comprehensive than any book I've read on domestic violence. Charlene recognizes that people are complex, so in this book, she addresses the whole person (psychologically, physically, and spiritually). This book has the wisdom in it to change how advocates help people of faith. It has the depth to challenge the most seasoned expert in the field of domestic violence. It has the gentleness that beckons the reader into an immersive experience and the boldness to challenge existing structures of abuse advocacy. I'm thankful to know Charlene and to add this book to my list of incredible resources that I'm confident will inform and even reframe my advocacy efforts for the rest of my life. --Neil Schori, Senior Pastor, The Edge Church, Aurora, IL Advocate for domestic abuse victims Former Pastor to Stacy Peterson (fourth wife of convicted murderer and former Bolingbrook, Illinois, police sergeant Drew Peterson) This book is amazing. It's everything that a woman seeking to escape an abusive relationship will need to know. This is the one book to have when dealing with a domestic violence situation. Whether you are a counselor, medical professional, clergy, friend, family member, or target of the abuse, this is the one book that will help to clarify the situation and provide a roadmap to a better life. It instructs, educates, encourages, guides, and provides comfort and hope to women who find themselves in an abusive situation. It's a godsend. --Susan Bacharz Guenther, LCPC, BC-TMH Founder, Counseling for Transitions, Evanston, IL When you're trapped in an abusive relationship, it's like living in thick fog. Oftentimes you don't even recognize where you are and are unable to see a way out. This book helps change all of that and is truly unlike any other I've read on the topic. It first helps readers recognize and identify abuse and understand the thought processes of the abuser. It then goes on to provide practical information about safety planning, managing finances, finding legal assistance, and getting the emotional support essential to successfully getting through the journey of overcoming abuse. The specific, practical advice that Charlene gives in this book alone makes it the one guide to recognizing and escaping abuse that every woman who is concerned about their well-being should have. But it goes even further, discussing the spiritual and emotional implications of abuse and divorce. She gives readers strength by reminding us of the spiritual armor God has given all of us and dispelling some myths surrounding abuse and divorce in the church. Quint provides inspiration, hope, and healing to allow women not only to remove themselves from abusive situations successfully but to go on to live a life of joy, fulfillment, and recovery. It is a must-read for all women who know they need help and for those who are wondering if their relationship is healthy or safe. I am truly grateful to Charlene Quint for all she does to help women overcome abuse, and I am certain this book will help and change the lives of so many. --State Representative Joyce Mason, 61st District, IL In this one-stop all-inclusive book, Charlene Quint provides women in abuse a guide on how to identify abuse and abusers, get out safely, recover, and reclaim their lives. A must-read for all women in abuse or in its aftermath. --Michael Nerheim, Lake County State's Attorney, IL This book provides a much-needed resource for women, particularly women of faith, who are seeking to escape domestic abuse. In one readable yet comprehensive book, Charlene Quint covers what every woman needs to know about identifying abuse, getting out safely, healing, and moving on with her life. --Michael Strauss, Esq., Schlesinger & Strauss, Illinois State Bar Association Family Law Chair 2019-2020 Vice President of the Board of a Safe Place, Zion, IL A must read! Charlene Quint has written a must-read for anyone experiencing domestic abuse. Finally, a handbook addressing all three stages of rescuing yourself, finding strength, and finding your new life. This handbook will help you go from victim to successful survivor! --Kelly Keiser, Survivor |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors Laura Doyle, 2015 Every marriage has its rough patches. If you're wondering how to repair yours, step away from the therapist, put down the magazine, and pick up this book. If you want to build a long, happy, fulfilling marriage, why not learn from the women who've done it? Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble. After five years, her husband had become distant. He seemed checked out of their relationship, preferring watching TV to making love. There were frequent fights that ended with tense silences and even threats of divorce. Marriage counseling actually made their problems worse. Each session seemed to reinforce the feeling that she and her husband were just too far apart. Desperate to avoid divorcing the man she loved, Laura tried something different. Rather than consulting with experts or professionals, she simply started talking to women who'd been happily married for more than fifteen years. What she discovered shocked her. Everything she had heard in marriage counseling was wrong. Laura realized that there are some basic truths to relationships that can help women maintain loving, intimate marriages, such as: The happiness of your relationship is up to you! Women hold the keys to a happy relationship 95 percent of the time (and will learn what to do the other 5 percent). What men want most of all is to be treated with respect. Treat your man with respect (even if you aren't feeling it), and he will treat you with love and care. Your man wants to know he has your trust. Give it to him, and he'll realize you are special, because you will be! After seeing her own marriage transform, Laura set out to help other women do the same. In this book, you'll learn Laura's Six Intimacy Skills, which have been used by over 50,000 women who have transformed their previously unhappy marriages into blissful unions. Stop reading articles about how important it is to schedule date night, and learn how to transform your relationship into one bursting with energy, intimacy, and love. First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors will put you on the path to having the marriage you want with the man you love-- |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: When I Hit You Meena Kandasamy, 2020-03-17 The widely acclaimed novel of an abused woman in India and her fight for freedom: “A triumph.” —The Guardian Named a Best Book of the Year by the Financial Times, the Guardian, the Daily Telegraph, and the Observer Shortlisted for the Women’s Prize for Fiction Longlisted for the Dylan Thomas Prize Shortlisted for the Jhalak Prize Based on the author’s own experience, When I Hit You follows the narrator as she falls in love with a university professor and agrees to be his wife. Soon, the newlywed experiences extreme violence at her husband’s hands and finds herself socially isolated. Yet hope keeps her alive. Writing becomes her salvation, a supreme act of defiance, in a harrowing yet fierce and funny novel that not only examines one woman’s battle against terror and loneliness but reminds us how fiction and stories can help us escape. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Stop Hurting the Woman You Love Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood, 2006 Encourages abusive men to change the beliefs that fuel their need to control, teaching them how to identify the distorted thinking that leads to abuse--often rooted in feelings of entitlement and male privilege--rather than simply managing their anger. Original. 15,000 first printing. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Wounded by Words Susan Titus Osborn, Karen L. Kosman, Jeenie Gordon, 2008 In Wounded by Words, the authors explore how emotional abusers isolate, disorient, and indoctrinate their victims and how their unkind words leave lasting scars. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Call Me Hope Gretchen Olson, 2014-06-05 In Oregon, eleven-year-old Hope begins coping with her mother's verbal abuse by devising survival strategies for herself based on a history unit about the Holocaust, and meanwhile she works toward buying a pair of purple hiking boots by helping at a second-hand shop. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Life-Saving Divorce Gretchen Baskerville, 2020-02 You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In The Life-Saving Divorce You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Taking the War Out of Our Words Sharon Strand Ellison, 2016-12 Whether we are dealing with a rude clerk, our child saying, That's not fair , our spouse ignoring us, or an uncooperative co-worker, in our struggle to respond effectively, we often become defensive - sometimes without even realizing it. Despite good intentions, we can become manipulative and controlling, even with those we love most. In this groundbreaking book, Sharon Ellison takes us to the root of our communication problems. She shows us how defensiveness functions in our lives and can lead to hurtful power struggles, outlining the six basic patterns we use: * Self-Betrayal * Avoidance * Excuses * Sabotage * Vindictiveness * Blame Using her Powerful, Non-Defensive Communication process, you can express yourself with a compelling blend of vulnerability and honesty. Learn to: * Ask disarming questions that prompt others to drop their defenses and open up * Give direct feedback to others without being judgmental * Express your own beliefs, feelings, and ideas passionately without being adversarial, so you can be heard and respected * Set firm boundaries that create security and clear expectations. Taking the War Out of Our Words provides us with vital tools for healing conflict, enhancing self-esteem, becoming more open and spontaneous, strengthening relationships, transforming organizations, and guiding the way toward peace in our global community. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Love Cycles, Fear Cycles David Woodsfellow, Deborah Woodsfellow, 2018 Director of the Woodsfellow Institute for Couples Therapy presents his concept of two cycles in intimate relationships. His model for improving relationships includes having partners describe their feelings and actions during both fear cycles and love cycles in just four words that will show what's gone wrong and how to make it right. Includes exercises and questionnaires-- |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: I Am Me: Survivor of Child Abuse and Bullying Speaks Out Patrick Dati, 2014-01 I AM MESurvivor of Child Abuse and Bullying Speaks Out The true story about a person that chooses no longer to live as a victim but became a survivor.Do you view yourself as a victim and unaware how to overcome abuse? Do you need help conquering your demons and coming to terms with the nightmare of your past?Are you clueless on how to walk away from the individuals that hurt you and stand up for yourself?In this book you will: You will learn how to achieve strategies for survival and healing.Discover ways to help survivors identify and validate their childhood experience with child abuse and bullying.Identify and come to terms with your sexuality and not to hide who you really are to please others. Learn that suicide is not the way out and choosing to survive and take control of your life.Find the person you were meant to be and accept who you are and love yourself. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Verbally Abusive Relationship Patricia Evans, 2010-01-18 This unique self-help book for women provides insight into psychological repression, the demeaning put-downs and threats that may accompany or precede physical battering. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Summary of Patricia Evans’s The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Milkyway Media Milkyway Media, 2018-08-31 Patricia Evans’s bestselling book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond (1992), is an examination of male psychological violence against female domestic partners. Although males can also be the victims, verbal abuse is almost exclusively perpetrated by men against women, which is why Evans focuses on the actions of male abusers… Purchase this in-depth summary to learn more. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Verbally Abusive Man - Can He Change? Patricia Evans, 2006-10-01 From the world’s most acclaimed expert on verbal abuse comes the first book that answers the question foremost in every woman’s mind: can he really change? Combining practical applications with the latest clinical research with the trademark support and assurance of Evans, The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He change? shows victims of verbal abuse how to empower themselves, improve their relationships, and change their lives for the better. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Why Don't You Just Talk to Him? Kathleen R. Arnold, 2015-08-03 Why Don't You Just Talk to Him? looks at the broad political contexts in which violence, specifically domestic violence, occurs. Kathleen Arnold argues that liberal and Enlightenment notions of the social contract, rationality and egalitarianism -- the ideas that constitute norms of good citizenship -- have an inextricable relationship to violence. According to this dynamic, targets of abuse are not rational, make bad choices, are unable to negotiate with their abusers, or otherwise violate norms of the social contract; they are, thus, second-class citizens. In fact, as Arnold shows, drawing from Nietzsche and Foucault's theories of power and arguing against much of the standard policy literature on domestic violence, the very mechanisms that purportedly help targets of domestic abuse actually work to compound the problem by exacerbating (or ignoring) the power differences between the abuser and the abused. The book argues that a key to understanding how to prevent domestic violence is seeing it as a political rather than a personal issue, with political consequences. It seeks to challenge Enlightenment ideas about intimacy that conceive of personal relationships as mutual, equal and contractual. Put another way, it challenges policy ideas that suggest that targets of abuse can simply choose to leave abusive relationships without other personal or economic consequences, or that there is a clear and consistent level of help once they make the choice to leave. Asking Why Don't You Just Talk to Him? is in reality a suggestion riven with contradictions and false choices. Arnold further explores these issues by looking at two key asylum cases that highlight contradictions within the government's treatment of foreigners and that of long-term residents. These cases expose problematic assumptions in the approach to domestic violence more generally. Exposing major injustices from the point of view of domestic violence targets, this book promises to generate further debate, if not consensus. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: The Happiest Book I Ever Read Is the Revelation of Jesus Christ Wilma Zalabak, 2022-09-23 Welcome to a book of adventure and imagination, exploring lessons for today that could be taken to heart from reviewing centuries of Christian work with the Revelation of the living Jesus Christ. The Happiest Book I Ever Read is merely a guide showcasing some expansions and summaries that the author has loved during inductive reading of Revelation. You might find in this little guide some ways Revelation could teach you how to deal with conflict in your church or your home; how to start a business or an organization and keep it vibrant; how to survive when the whole system gets riddled with anxiety; how to avoid taking up, or getting taken up in, fear, shame, and guilt; or how to build love, acceptance, and forgiveness into your organization or project. You will find adventure and help to walk with the living Jesus Christ in The Happiest Book I Ever Read Is the Revelation of Jesus Christ. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Escaping Control & Abuse: How to Get Out of a Bad Relationship & Recover from Assault Kaz Cooke, 2013-03-06 AVAILABLE AS A FREE DOWNLOAD This book could save your self-esteem and even your life. Trusted author Kaz Cooke explains how to recognise controlling and abusive relationships and how to escape them, and how to deal with stalking, assault, rape and other abusive situations. Practical, emotional and non-judgemental advice is combined with input from specialist counsellors, and chosen quotes from hundreds of women who've been through it. Updated in 2018. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Verbal Abuse Patricia Evans, 2003-02-01 If your partner: seems irritated or angry at you several times a week, denies being angry when he clearly is, does not work with you to resolve important issues, rarely or never seems to share thoughts or plans with you, or tells you that he has no idea what you’re talking about when you try to discuss important problems…you need this book. Verbal Abuse: Survivors Speak Out outlines solutions to abusive relationships, tells victims where to find shelters and support groups, and analyzes why many therapists misdiagnose problems in violent relationships. |
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| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Verbal Abuse Patricia Evans, 2003-02-01 If your partner: seems irritated or angry at you several times a week, denies being angry when he clearly is, does not work with you to resolve important issues, rarely or never seems to share thoughts or plans with you, or tells you that he has no idea what you’re talking about when you try to discuss important problems…you need this book. Verbal Abuse: Survivors Speak Out outlines solutions to abusive relationships, tells victims where to find shelters and support groups, and analyzes why many therapists misdiagnose problems in violent relationships. |
| the verbally abusive relationship book review: Interpersonal Communication Shelley D. Lane, 2016-06-23 Interpersonal Communication: Competence and Contexts prepares students to communicate successfully in today's fast-paced and complex society through the implementation of a unique competence-building model. This highly readable text provides the theories, concepts, and applications in a pedagogically sound format based on a model of communication competence made up of three elements: motivation, knowledge, and skill. Studying interpersonal communication through this distinct framework will provide a foundation for students' motivation to communicate competently, increase their knowledge about communication, and enhance their acquisition and performance of communication skills. Covering a broad range of interpersonal communication themes, including strategic alternatives and solutions to communication challenges and information about friendship, family, romantic, and workplace relationships, this Second Edition presents theories, concepts, and activities with engaging examples and an attention-getting design. |
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