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| the new male sexuality: The New Male Sexuality Bernie Zilbergeld, 1999-07-06 The New Male Sexuality addresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them. Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences. the result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling. Clear, comprehensive, witty, and refreshingly realistic, The New Male Sexuality is destined to be a classic of the nineties and beyond. |
| the new male sexuality: Contemporary Male Sexuality Barry McCarthy, Emily McCarthy, 2020-12-29 This accessible guide confronts myths and pressures surrounding men and sex, promoting a positive and healthy model of male sexuality that replaces traditional expectations. The chapters in this book engage with cultural assumptions about male sexuality, from harmful early messaging, to the importance of enjoying intimacy, pleasure, and eroticism over the age of 60. The authors challenge the effects of toxic masculinity and traditional gendered roles in sex, celebrating sexual diversity, confronting double standards, and empowering men and couples to develop an equitable sexual bond. Case studies and psychosexual skill exercises are integrated throughout to make each concept personal and concrete, and incorporate the Good Enough Sex (GES) model to promote an authentic sexual self throughout the lifespan. With a focus on mutual consent and pleasure, Contemporary Male Sexuality offers a new model of male sexuality that helps men and couples achieve a satisfying, secure, and sexual bond, replacing damaging expectations with healthy sexual values. |
| the new male sexuality: Male Sexuality Bernie Zilbergeld, John Ullman, 1978 Surprisingly little on homosexuality, considering the fact that the author has worked all his adult life in San Francisco!--Peter Thorslev. |
| the new male sexuality: The Gender of Desire Michael S. Kimmel, 2012-02-01 Here, one of the world's pioneers in the field of masculinity studies explores the construction of male sexuality, pornography, and sexual violence. Michael S. Kimmel analyzes what male sexuality is, where it comes from, how it works, what affects it, pornography's impact on it, what fantasies men have about sex, what people think about sex, and how male ideas about sex affect what men actually do. Provocative and wide-ranging, these essays make important contributions to sociology, queer theory, American studies, history, and studies of gender, sexuality, and gay and lesbian issues. |
| the new male sexuality: Hidden Anxieties Lesley A. Hall, 1991 |
| the new male sexuality: The Sexuality Papers Lal Coveney, Margaret Jackson, Sheila Jeffreys, Leslie Kay, Pat Mahony, 2019-01-17 Originally published in 1984. The history of sex in the last 100 years has usually been written as a story of progress from repression to sexual liberation. This book argues that the reverse is true, demonstrating that the ‘sexual revolution’ came as a backlash to a women’s movement which challenged men’s sexual abuse and tried to reconstruct male sexuality in women’s interest. At first it looks at those groups at the turn of the twentieth century who campaigned to challenge prevailing ideas about sexual behaviour. It moves on to review the work of the most influential sexologists Ellis, Kinsey, Masters and Johnson, and then presents a critical analysis of the sex magazine Forum. |
| the new male sexuality: Size Matters Harry Fisch, M.D., Kara Baskin, 2008-07-15 A man’s anatomy is a lot easier to understand than his mind, and knowing what’s going on down there is just as important to a happy relationship as figuring out the deeper meaning of his every word. You can analyze your relationship with your girlfriends, but who can you turn to with the more . . . sensitive questions? In Size Matters, Dr. Harry Fisch, an expert on the male reproductive system, and writer Kara Baskin team up to introduce you, metaphorically speaking, to the penis. Clearing up mysteries about male anatomy, orgasm, masturbation, STDs, testosterone, impotence, sexual response, and much more, Size Matters is the first women’s user manual for male sexuality—a guidebook that will answer all your questions and lead you to a better sex life. For example: Can masturbation have any effect on sex? Can he do it too much . . . or too little? He always orgasms before me . . . is there any way to slow him down? Do grown men still have wet dreams? Can his weight affect our sex life? Size Matters is a fun, prescriptive, easy-to-understand troubleshooting guide for women who have questions about male sexuality or who want to have better sex. You might not always understand what’s going on in his mind, but now you can know what’s going on in his pants. |
| the new male sexuality: Earth Honoring Robert Lawlor, 1991 |
| the new male sexuality: Reading Your Male Mary Farrar, 2009 You can play a significant role in your man's struggle against sexual sin. Reading Your Male is an indispensable resource with practical advice, strong biblical undergirding, and hope for a real solution. |
| the new male sexuality: Sons, Lovers, and Fathers Didier Dumas, 1997 In Sons, Lovers, and Fathers, noted French psychoanalyst Didier Dumas dares to explore all the dimensions of male desire and sexual pleasure. Not another book about technique of playboy fantasies, Dumas's work will help men who are liberated - but still sexually inarticulate - express their deepest feelings in a new way. This is a book for young men constantly overwhelmed by porno-erotic imagery who don't know what to make of their feelings or how to handle themselves in a world of plastic supermodels and pumped-up superstars. And it is a book for women who are baffled by the men in their lives and their inability to speak about or even understand what they feel. This book will get people talking: man to man, father to son, and lovers to each other. |
| the new male sexuality: Cartographies of Desire Gregory M. Pflugfelder, 2007-03-19 A remarkable and sorely needed synthesis of the best of traditional historiographical documentation and critically astute analysis and contextualization. Cartographies complements and, frankly, exceeds any of the English language monographs on similar topics that precede it, and it represents significant contributions to several fields outside of East Asian history, including literature, gender studies, lesbian and gay studies, and cultural studies.—Earl Jackson Jr., author of Strategies of Deviance: Studies in Gay male Representation and Fantastic Living: The Speculative Autobiographies of Samuel R. Delany |
| the new male sexuality: The Hite Report Shere Hite, 2011-01-04 A reproduction of the classic text, unavailable now for more than a decade, with a new introduction by the author. The Hite Report, first published in 1976, was a sexual revolution in six hundred pages. To answer sensitive questions dealing with the most intimate details of women's sexuality, Hite's innovation was simple: she asked women, a lot of them, everything--and published the results. One hundred thousand women, ages fourteen to seventy-eight, were asked what they do and don't like about sex; how orgasm really feels, with and without intercourse; how it feels not to have an orgasm during sex; the importance of clitoral stimulation and masturbation; and to name the greatest pleasures and frustrations of their sexual lives, among many other questions. The Hite Report declares that orgasm is easy and strong for women, given the right stimulation; that most women have orgasm most easily during masturbation or clitoral stimulation by hand; that sex as we define it is a cultural institution, not a biological one; and that attitudes must change to include the stimulation women desire. |
| the new male sexuality: Getting It On Online John Edward Campbell, 2014-04-04 Learn how gay men use Internet technologies to connect with others sharing their erotic desires and to forge affirming communities online! Getting It On Online: Cyberspace, Gay Male Sexuality, and Embodied Identity examines the online embodied experiences of gay men. At once scholarly and sensual, this unique book is the result of a three-year ethnographic study chronicling the activities on three distinct social scenes in the world of Internet Relay Chat (IRC)virtual spaces constructed by gay men for the erotic exploration of the male body. Examining the vital role the body plays in defining these online spaces offers insight into how gay men negotiate their identities through emerging communication technologies. The author combines a critical look at the role of the body in cyberspace with candid accounts of his own online experiences to challenge conventional views on sex, sexuality, and embodied identity. Getting It On Online provides an inside look at three specific online communitiesgaychub (a community celebrating male obesity), gaymuscle (a community formulated around images of the muscular male body), and gaymusclebears (a space representing the erotic convergence of the obese and muscular male bodies emerging out of the gay male bear subculture)in an effort to unsettle those models of beauty and the erotic depicted in more mainstream media. The book demonstrates how the social position of these men in the physical world in regards to age, race, gender, class, and physical beauty influences their online experiences. Far from a realm of bodiless exultation, Getting It On Online illustrates how the flesh remains very much present in cyberspace. Getting It On Online examines topics such as: why people chat online the history of IRC (Internet Relay Chat) how people construct their identities in cyberspace how some online spaces function like virtual gay bars the concept of online disembodiment the role the body plays in online social relations the future of online communication ethnographic research in cyberspace mediated images of the male body and the gay male beauty myth and much more! Getting It On Online: Cyberspace, Gay Male Sexuality, and Embodied Identity is an essential resource for anthropologists, sociologists, and psychologists; academics working in gender studies, queer theory, cultural studies, and cyber-culture studies; and anyone interested in gay and lesbian issues and/or cyberspace. |
| the new male sexuality: Naked and Erect Joel Ryce-Menuhin, 1996 By presenting male sexuality along with its psychological and spiritual issues, Joel Ryce-Menuhin's work adds to our understanding of men today. |
| the new male sexuality: The Hite Report on Male Sexuality Shere Hite, 2014-03 In 7239 questionnaires, men aged between 13 and 79, were analysed, allowing a new cultural interpretation of what it means, sexually, to be male. This book explores this Hite report and reveals men's fears and secrets, attitudes to women, sexual preferences and practices, profoundest joys and disappointments. |
| the new male sexuality: Heroes of Eros Michael Malone, 1979 |
| the new male sexuality: Am I Gay, Straight Or What? Female Sexuality Test Jest Fest, 2020-10-17 Is someone you know sexually confused? This Ultimate Female Sexuality Test Book contains pages and pages of fun puzzles and brainteasers that will reveal their secret sexual desires and urges. Part of the Am I series by Jest Fest, this hilarious adult puzzle book is a great stocking stuffer or birthday prank gift for your friend, sister, cousin, coworker, and just about anyone with a sense of humor. Get a second one for yourself to enjoy during some downtime. Light-hearted by design, the cute nature of activities won't offend or exclude anyone, but rather pokes fun at all women, no matter their sexual orientation or preference. Disclaimer: The results achieved from the activities in this book have not been clinically proven or evaluated by the FDA, EPA, WHO, NASA or the Illuminati. For professional advice, please contact your local church. |
| the new male sexuality: Sexual Fluidity Lisa M. Diamond, 2008-02-28 Is love “blind” when it comes to gender? For women, it just might be. This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context-dependent nature of female sexuality. Lisa M. Diamond argues that for some women, love and desire are not rigidly heterosexual or homosexual but fluid, changing as women move through the stages of life, various social groups, and, most important, different love relationships.This perspective clashes with traditional views of sexual orientation as a stable and fixed trait. But that view is based on research conducted almost entirely on men. Diamond is the first to study a large group of women over time. She has tracked one hundred women for more than ten years as they have emerged from adolescence into adulthood. She summarizes their experiences and reviews research ranging from the psychology of love to the biology of sex differences. Sexual Fluidity offers moving first-person accounts of women falling in and out of love with men or women at different times in their lives. For some, gender becomes irrelevant: “I fall in love with the person, not the gender,” say some respondents.Sexual Fluidity offers a new understanding of women’s sexuality—and of the central importance of love. |
| the new male sexuality: Finding Male Sexuality MR Carl E Stevens Jr, 2013-06-05 Men today are at a sexual and relationship crossroads. The choice is to continue to live your relationship and sexual life according to the standard narrative of relating, which is an extension of the patriarchal and troubadour-based romanticism or to acknowledge how we really feel and move towards our sexual and relationship potential. The choice is to take a stand in saving our families, children, and communities or to continue contributing to a system and mode of behavior that spirals us downward toward moral ruin. This book is about selected parts of my personal journey to expand my sexual awareness. It's about how my socially accepted expectations of male sexuality prevented me from having completely fulfilling sexual experiences for much of my adult life and how these same expectations prevented me from understanding the women I interacted with. After being introduced to the art of tantra and sacred sexuality, I found myself being opened to deeper and deeper encounters with my lovers. These deep encounters became lessons that I would incorporate into my sexual and relationship life going forward. |
| the new male sexuality: Rekindling Desire Barry McCarthy, Emily McCarthy, 2013-12-17 For over a decade Rekindling Desire has helped to restore and restructure sexuality in thousands of lives. This expanded edition continues the exploration of inhibited sexual desire and no-sex relationships by the author, who brings decades of knowledge and the expertise that comes from having treated almost 3,000 couples for sexual problems. Contained within are suggested strategies and exercises that help develop communication and sexual skills, as well as interesting case studies that open the doors to couples’ sexual frustrations. The shame, embarrassment, and hesitancy that individuals feel with themselves, and the resentment and blame they can feel towards their sexual partners, are explored and put into context. Whether you are married, cohabitating, or dating, or if you are 25, 45, or 75, reading this book will help renew your sexual desire and put you on the path towards healthy, pleasure-oriented sexuality. |
| the new male sexuality: Reclaiming Male Sexuality George Ryan, 1997 Brings these new cures into the open. |
| the new male sexuality: Infamous Desire Pete Sigal, 2003 What did it mean to be a man in colonial Latin America? More specifically, what did indigenous and Iberian groups think of men who had sexual relations with other men? Providing comprehensive analyses of how male homosexualities were represented in areas under Portuguese and Spanish control, Infamous Desire is the first book-length attempt to answer such questions. In a study that will be indispensable for anyone studying sexuality and gender in colonial Latin America, an esteemed group of contributors view sodomy through the lens of desire and power, relating male homosexual behavior to broader gender systems that defined masculinity and femininity. |
| the new male sexuality: How is a Man Supposed to be a Man? Robin A Hadley, 2021-09-17 The global trend of declining fertility rates and an increasingly ageing population has serious implications for individuals and institutions alike. Childless men are mostly excluded from ageing, social science and reproduction scholarship and almost completely absent from most national statistics. This unique book examines the lived experiences of a hidden and disenfranchised population: men who wanted to be fathers. It explores the complex intersections that influence childlessness over the life course. |
| the new male sexuality: Not Gay Jane Ward, 2015-07-31 A different look at heterosexuality in the twenty-first century A straight white girl can kiss a girl, like it, and still call herself straight—her boyfriend may even encourage her. But can straight white guys experience the same easy sexual fluidity, or would kissing a guy just mean that they are really gay? Not Gay thrusts deep into a world where straight guy-on-guy action is not a myth but a reality: there’s fraternity and military hazing rituals, where new recruits are made to grab each other’s penises and stick fingers up their fellow members’ anuses; online personal ads, where straight men seek other straight men to masturbate with; and, last but not least, the long and clandestine history of straight men frequenting public restrooms for sexual encounters with other men. For Jane Ward, these sexual practices reveal a unique social space where straight white men can—and do—have sex with other straight white men; in fact, she argues, to do so reaffirms rather than challenges their gender and racial identity. Ward illustrates that sex between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men. By understanding their same-sex sexual practice as meaningless, accidental, or even necessary, straight white men can perform homosexual contact in heterosexual ways. These sex acts are not slippages into a queer way of being or expressions of a desired but unarticulated gay identity. Instead, Ward argues, they reveal the fluidity and complexity that characterizes all human sexual desire. In the end, Ward’s analysis offers a new way to think about heterosexuality—not as the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but as its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege. Daring, insightful, and brimming with wit, Not Gay is a fascinating new take on the complexities of heterosexuality in the modern era. |
| the new male sexuality: The Sexually Healthy Man Andrew J Bauman, 2020-12 DESCRIPTION: I grew up in the Southern Baptist church of the 90's during the height of the True Love Waits movement, accompanied by Joshua Harris' bestseller, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. If you don't know what I am referring to, consider yourself blessed. Many of the ideas perpetuated by this culture were infused with fear and shame, offering no practical help or guidance in equipping young people to become healthy sexual human beings. As I approached adulthood, I became accustomed to feeling shame around my sexuality; trying to white-knuckle purity and falling short over and over again. This left me feeling full of self-hatred and hopelessness. I hope for this book to serve as the guide I wish I'd had, providing comfort and clarity to those who find themselves in a similar struggle for sexual health. I have written these essays not only for men but also for women who want to understand what healthy sexuality can look like in a partner. May this book be life-giving to your sexual healing. May courage accompany you as you engage with these essays of spirituality, sexuality, & restoration.ENDORSEMENTS: Most of us have some sense as to what God says about sex. Few of us have a sense of what sex says about God. In The Sexually Healthy Man, Andrew Bauman shows men how sexuality can be a window into understanding God more deeply; as well as understanding the glory and strength of our own masculine soul. With a rare blend of disarming vulnerability and trauma-informed clinical wisdom, Andrew lovingly helps readers understand the real nature of sexual brokenness. Best of all, he sets men on a proven path to living wholehearted and free in a way that will make us all think differently about sex, spirituality, and restoration. - Michael John Cusick, CEO at Restoring the Soul, Inc. Author of Surfing for God The Sexually Healthy Man arises out of the immense courage of therapist, Andrew Bauman. The title may seem like an oxymoron to any man paying attention to a newsfeed or a mirror. It's tempting to see the debris of sexual harm around us and within us and respond with despair or minimization. Andrew invites us to an alternative path that is both unflinchingly honest and hope restoring. This is a generous book, full of stories and wisdom. The Sexually Healthy Man can guide you to personal healing and, in the process, it might also enliven you to be a participant in the seismic cultural change needed in our world today.- Jay Stringer, M.Div, MA Author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing As a young therapist, I devoured Irvin Yalom's The Gift of Therapy - winsome and wise letters to his therapists and patients nudging them along in a journey of healing. Like Yalom's short letters, Andrew's essays are deep but accessible, courageous, and compassionate, offered out of the experience of a seasoned therapist. They're engaging invitations to heal our systems and ourselves by addressing our stories, our bodies, and our fears of sex and sexuality. What a gift! -Chuck DeGroat, PH.D.Professor & Author As a blogger who often has to pick up the pieces from women betrayed by the men they loved, this book made me hope again! What would the world look like if men would humble themselves, be honest, and reclaim health and wholeness? Let Andrew Bauman lead you on the messy road toward healthy sexuality--and real intimacy between the sexes. -Sheila Wray Gregoire, ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, Author of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex |
| the new male sexuality: Ambiguous Pleasures Rachel Spronk, 2012-05-01 Among both male and female young urban professionals in Nairobi, sexuality is a key to achieving a ‘modern’ identity. These young men and women see themselves as the avant garde of a new Africa, while they also express the recurring worry of how to combine an ‘African’ identity with the new lifestyles with which they are experimenting. By focusing on public debates and their preoccupations with issues of African heritage, gerontocratic power relations and conventional morality on the one hand, and personal sexual relationships, intimacy and self-perceptions on the other, this study works out the complexities of sexuality and culture in the context of modernity in an African society. It moves beyond an investigation of a health or development perspective of sexuality and instead examines desire, pleasure and eroticism, revealing new insights into the methodology and theory of the study of sexuality within the social sciences. Sexuality serves as a prism for analysing how social developments generate new notions of self in postcolonial Kenya and is a crucial component towards understanding the way people recognize and deal with modern changes in their personal lives. |
| the new male sexuality: Sanctified Sexuality Sandra Glahn, C. Gary Barnes, 2020-09-22 Expert biblical and practical advice for handling today's most challenging sexual issues Although modern culture constantly changes its views on sexuality, God's design for sexuality remains the same. Bringing together twenty-five expert contributors in relevant fields of study, Gary Barnes and Sandra Glahn address the most important and controversial areas of sexuality that Christians face today. From a scriptural perspective and with an irenic tone, the contributors address issues such as: • The theology of the human body • Male and female in the Genesis creation accounts • Abortion • Celibacy • Sexuality in marriage • Contraception • Infertility • Cohabitation • Divorce and remarriage • Same-sex attraction • Gender dysphoria An ideal handbook for pastors, counselors, instructors, and students, Sanctified Sexuality provides solid answers and prudent advice for the many questions Christians encounter on a daily basis. |
| the new male sexuality: Not Always in the Mood Sarah Hunter Murray, 2020-10-07 If there is one thing we know about men and sex it is that men are always in the mood. Any time, any place. Right? Wrong. Men's sexual desire has long been depicted as high, simple, and unwavering. But the new research around men's desire tells us this is far from true; and that good sex and relationships are suffering from these long-held misconceptions. In Not Always in the Mood: The New Science on Men, Sex, and Relationships sex researcher and relationship therapist Sarah Hunter Murray presents a lively, timely, and critical exploration of the newest, most surprising science on men and sex, shattering myths about men's sexuality and helping today's couples connect more deeply and authentically than ever before. One-by-one, Murray examines the most detrimental, deep-held beliefs we as a society promote around men and their desire, and dive into how they affect our intimate relationships daily - and what to do about it. Do men actually crave and enjoy sex more than women? Do men do the wanting and prefer the chase? Where do they stand on sexual rejection? What's the deal with porn? Answering these questions and more, this is a book for modern women and men alike. Moving beyond typical here's what he likes sexual tips, the book empowers readers and offers a completely new perspective on sexuality that will validate men's experiences and help their partners to a greater understanding of the psychology and emotions surrounding them. |
| the new male sexuality: Come As You Are: Revised and Updated Emily Nagoski, 2021-03-02 A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life. For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible. |
| the new male sexuality: Boys & Sex Peggy Orenstein, 2020-03-26 The New York Times Bestseller Peggy Orenstein broke ground with her bestselling Girls & Sex, exploring young women's right to pleasure and agency in sexual encounters. Now she turns her focus to boys with an examination of how young men are navigating sexual culture in these changing times - and what we need to do help them. Drawing on comprehensive interviews with young men, psychologists and experts in the field, Boys & Sex dissects 'locker room talk'; pornography as the new sex education; the role of empathy; boys' understanding of hookup culture and consent; and their experience as both perpetrators and victims of sexual assault. By presenting young men's experience in all its complexity, Orenstein unravels the hidden truths, hard lessons and important realities of young male sexuality in today's world. The result is a provocative and paradigm-shifting work that offers a much-needed vision of how boys can truly move forward as better men. |
| the new male sexuality: Caribbean Pleasure Industry Mark Padilla, 2008-11-15 In recent years, the economy of the Caribbean has become almost completely dependent on international tourism. And today one of the chief ways that foreign visitors there seek pleasure is through prostitution. While much has been written on the female sex workers who service these tourists, Caribbean Pleasure Industry shifts the focus onto the men. Drawing on his groundbreaking ethnographic research in the Dominican Republic, Mark Padilla discovers a complex world where the global political and economic impact of tourism has led to shifting sexual identities, growing economic pressures, and new challenges for HIV prevention. In fluid prose, Padilla analyzes men who have sex with male tourists, yet identify themselves as “normal” heterosexual men and struggle to maintain this status within their relationships with wives and girlfriends. Padilla’s exceptional ability to describe the experiences of these men will interest anthropologists, but his examination of bisexuality and tourism as much-neglected factors in the HIV/AIDS epidemic makes this book essential to anyone concerned with health and sexuality in the Caribbean or beyond. |
| the new male sexuality: Wired for Intimacy William M. Struthers, 2010-02 Pornography is powerful. Our contemporary culture as been pornified, and it shapes our assumptions about identity, sexuality, the value of women and the nature of relationships. Countless Christian men struggle with the addictive power of porn. But common spiritual approaches of more prayer and accountability groups are often of limited help. In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. Struthers exposes false assumptions and casts a vision for a redeemed masculinity, showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography. |
| the new male sexuality: Getting It, Having It, Keeping It Up Beth Montemurro, 2021-12-10 Scholars and social critics are looking at gender and sexuality, as well as masculinity, in new ways and with more attention to the way cultural ideologies affect men’s and women’s lives. With the rise of an online “incel” (involuntarily celibate) community and the perpetration of acts of violence in their name, as well as increased awareness about the complexities of sexual interaction brought to the fore by the #metoo movement, it has become critical to discuss how men’s sexuality and masculinity are related, as well as the way men feel about the messages they get about being a man. Prior research on masculinity and masculine sexuality has examined the experiences of adolescent boys. But what happens to boys as they become men and as many move away from homo-social environments into sexual relationships? What happens when they no longer have a crowd of peers to posture or perform for? How do their sexual experiences and sexual selves change? How do they prove their masculinity in a society that demands it when they are no longer surrounded by peers? And how do they cultivate sexual selves and sexual self-confidence in a culture that expects them to always already be knowledgeable, desiring sexual subjects? In Getting It, Having It, Keeping It Up, Beth Montemurro explores the cultivation of heterosexual men’s sexual selves. Based on detailed, in-depth interviews with a large, diverse group of heterosexual men between the ages of 20 and 68, she investigates how getting sex, having sex, and keeping up their sex lives matters to men. Ultimately, Montemurro uncovers the tension between public, cultural narratives about hetero-masculinity and men’s private, sexual selves and their intimate experiences. |
| the new male sexuality: Still Straight Tony Silva, 2021-03-23 Why some straight men have sex with other men Why do some straight men in rural America have sex with other men? In Still Straight, Tony Silva convincingly argues that these men—many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing, and shooting guns—are not gay, bisexual, or “just experimenting.” As he shows, these men can enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture. Drawing on riveting interviews with straight white men who live in rural America, Silva explores the fascinating, and unexpected, disconnect between sexual behavior and identity. Some use sex with men to bond with other men in an acceptably masculine way; some are not particularly attracted to men, but are wary of emotional attachment with women; and others view sex with men—as opposed to women—as a more acceptable form of extramarital sexual behavior. Taking us inside the lives of straight white men who have sex with other men, Still Straight shows us that heterosexuality in rural America is not always, in fact, what it seems. |
| the new male sexuality: Rethinking Sexuality Dr. Juli Slattery, 2018-07-24 This ground-breaking resource challenges and equips Christians to think and act biblically and compassionately in matters of sexuality. Sexual abuse, sex addiction, gender confusion, brokenness, and shame plague today's world, and people are seeking clarity and hope. By contesting long-held cultural paradigms, this book equips you to see how sexuality is rooted in the broader context of God's heart and His work for us on earth. It provides a framework from which to understand the big picture of sexual challenges and wholeness, and helps you recognize that every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one. It shifts the paradigm from combating sexual problems to confidently proclaiming and modeling the road to sacred sexuality. Instead of arguing with the world about what's right and wrong about sexual choices, this practical resource equips you to share the love and grace of Jesus as you encounter the pain of sexual brokenness--your own or someone else's. |
| the new male sexuality: Confessions of a Frigid Man Masahiro Morioka, 2017-03-02 Confessions of a Frigid Man: A Philosopher's Journey into the Hidden Layers of Men's Sexuality is the translation of a Japanese 2005 bestseller, Kanjinai Otoko. Soon after the publication, this book stirred controversy over the nature of male sexuality, male frigidity, and its connection to the Lolita complex. Today, this work is considered a classic in Japanese men's studies. The most striking feature of this book is that it was written from the author's first-person perspective. The author is a professor who teaches philosophy and ethics at a university in Japan, and in this book he talks about his own sexual fetishism, his feeling of emptiness after ejaculation, and his huge obsession with young girls and their developing female bodies. He undertakes a philosophical investigation of how and why sexuality took such a form within a person who had grown up as a normal, heterosexual man. This may be the first case in which a philosopher delves deep into his own sexuality and poses an ambitious hypothesis about the formation of male frigid sexuality, which might actually be shared by many normal men in our society in a hidden way. Reading this book, female readers will come to know, for the first time, some hidden aspects of male sexuality which men have skillfully submerged in a deep layer of their psyches. Table of Contents Foreword to English Readers Preface Chapter 1: As Long as There's a Miniskirt I Don't Need a Flesh and Blood Woman!? Chapter 2: Men Who Avert Their Eyes from Male Frigidity Chapter 3: Why am I Attracted to School Uniforms? Chapter 4: Delving into the Psychology of Men with Lolita Complexes Chapter 5: Moving Beyond Being a Frigid Man Epilogue: Further Thoughts on a Frigid Man - Year 2013 From Preface In this book I am going to write about the idea that men may not feel much sexual pleasure or satisfaction, and that it is because of this lack of feeling that they become absorbed in sexual fantasies involving things like miniskirts, uniforms, lolicon [a Japanese term for Lolita complex], and rape. In order to support this assertion I will speak extensively about myself. I intend to consider this issue not in terms of a general theory of male sexuality but rather from the point of view of my own specific case. But I hope male readers read this text as if it were written just for them. I hope female readers read it with a sense of urgency, imagining that the man they are with may be subject to some of the same psychological workings it describes. I have resolved to speak with complete frankness; I intend to explore this unknown world without any fear or reservation. ..... |
| the new male sexuality: Summary of Bernie Zilbergeld's The New Male Sexuality Everest Media,, 2022-05-22T22:59:00Z Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 Men in our culture walk a thin line. They must be sure their behavior conforms to what is considered manly, but they also must be sensitive and emotionally expressive. This has become more difficult than ever before. #2 The training given to boys and girls is different, and has a significant influence on how they behave as adults. While we may not be able to completely undo a genetic disposition, we can shape it to some extent. #3 The training of masculinity in boys begins at a young age, and continues through their lives. By the age of six or seven, they have already learned lessons about being male. They will not cry, and they may not even be able to ask for directions when they’re lost. #4 The primary focus of males and females is very different. Connection to others is the name of the game for females of all ages, even in their play. Men, on the other hand, learn that the primary thing in life is doing or performing in the world out there, not in the family in here. |
| the new male sexuality: Tantric Sex for Men Diana Richardson, Michael Richardson, 2010-06-18 A revolutionary approach to male sexuality offers the keys to achieving sexual fulfillment • Teaches how to retain semen for increased vitality and longer lovemaking • Explains the relationship-strengthening benefits of deep, sustained penetration • Includes foreplay approaches and position sequences Fulfilling sex nourishes love, increases vitality, and boosts mental health. Unfortunately, prevailing attitudes about male sexuality and what is good sex work against these innate features by focusing on the excitement of ejaculation as the one and only goal. Using the tantric guidelines they have practiced for more than 25 years, Diana and Michael Richardson show men how to move beyond their preconceptions of sex as a goal-oriented--and often unintentionally stressful--event so they can relax into sex as a meditative union of complementary energies. They explain how retaining semen allows for increased vitality and extended lovemaking sessions and show the relationship-strengthening benefits of deep, sustained penetration. They also explain how to perform soft penetration and how to avoid premature ejaculation. Tantric Sex for Men includes tried-and-true foreplay approaches, diagrams of sexual position sequences, ways to increase sexual sensitivity through awareness, and how to have ecstatic experiences through reaching a woman’s body on a sexually deeper level. The authors also demonstrate how the sexual organs can be used to heal both men and women physically, emotionally, and spiritually. |
| the new male sexuality: For Each Other Lonnie Barbach, 2001 A nationally renowned sex therapist and intimacy expert presents a newly revised and updated edition of a complete program for dealing with the complex aspects of a relationship--both physical and psychological--that affect sexual satisfaction. Includes more than 50 easy-to-follow exercises to show how to reduce anger, open sexual communication, and more. |
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