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| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage Leslie Vernick, 2013-09-17 Something Has to Change… You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to: · identify damaging behaviors · gain the skills to respond wisely · promote healthy change · stay safe · understand when, why, and even how to leave · recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future. “Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape.” —Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and The Friendships of Women |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Emotionally Destructive Relationship Leslie Vernick, 2007-08-15 Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to: Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt Confront and speak truth when the timing is right Determine when to keep trying, when to get out Get safe and stay safe Build an identity in Christ This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects of emotionally destructive relationships. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong Leslie Vernick, 2011-11-23 Experience the Blessings of an Imperfect Marriage. We all–at one time or another–have the opportunity to act right when our spouse acts wrong. There are no perfect marriages or perfect spouses. We know that having a good marriage requires effort and hard work. Yet we often don’t know how to continue to love when we are angry, hurt, scared, or just plain irritated. Nor are we sure what that kind of love is supposed to look like. Should we be patient? Forgive and forget? Do something else entirely? Acting right when your spouse acts wrong will not necessarily guarantee a more satisfying marital relationship, nor will it automatically make your spouse change his or her ways–although both could occur. It will, however, help you see how God is stretching you in the midst of your marital difficulties, teach you to respond wisely when wronged, and lead you into a deeper relationship with Christ as you yield your will to his plan for your life and learn to be more like him. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Life-Saving Divorce Gretchen Baskerville, 2020-02 You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In The Life-Saving Divorce You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage Leslie Vernick, 2013-09-17 Something Has to Change… You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to: · identify damaging behaviors · gain the skills to respond wisely · promote healthy change · stay safe · understand when, why, and even how to leave · recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future. “Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape.” —Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and The Friendships of Women |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: How to Live Right When Your Life Goes Wrong Leslie Vernick, 2003-09-16 You Know It in Your Head. Now, Let It Live in Your Heart. Despite the abundant availability of both self-help books and Bible study materials, many of us find it difficult to apply what we learn, to make that long head-to-heart journey of change. When we are faced with life’s daily trials, our responses often lack the Christian maturity we desire–showing us clearly just how far we have to go. Is it possible to achieve a deeper, more permanent change of heart? Discover the Principle that Could Transform Your Life. Now, through one practical, simple-to-understand and easy-to-remember model, you can: • Gain a new perspective on the troubles God allows in your life. • Come to better understand your response to those trials. • Discover the underlying idols that hamper your efforts to change. • Learn how to discern the truth of God’s Word. • Develop the heart response that will draw you closer to God. Come on a journey of personal growth and spiritual discovery as your heart is drawn back to a central tenet of the Gospel: Truth isn’t something you learn, but Someone you know. And the Truth will set you free. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Defeating Depression Leslie Vernick, 2009-01-01 Leslie Vernick is a wise counselor... She is an experienced and thorough trainer who shares clearly and practically the necessary steps for getting into shape spiritually, emotionally, and physically in order to contend with depression. This is a wonderful, comprehensive guide... --Cynthia Heald, international speaker and author One in five women will experience clinical depression in her lifetime. Christian counselor and author Leslie Vernick offers words of hope and encouragement as she helps women understand the symptoms of depression, what causes depression, and what steps they can take to get better and grow stronger. Employing godly wisdom and surprising insights, Leslie shares on vital topics, such as these: Depression is revealing something about you. Listen to it. Growth takes time and practice. Things are not hopeless; you are not helpless; and you are not worthless. Defeating Depression is a timely resource for women battling depression or for family and friends who love them and want to understand what they are going through. Formerly titled Getting Over the Blues |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Choosing Fierce Dawn Stephenson, 2018-05-16 Is there a DEFCON level one assault on your family, faith, or soul? Do you know how to fight from victory and not for it? Are you ready for battle? Are you prepared for war? Deep in the recesses of God's mind lay the vision for a powerful, strong, unconquerable, victorious, fierce being. Buried in our DNA, He planted those very seeds along with the dreams, plans, and purposes He scripted for our lives in eternity past. Learn how He waits to show you and call them to fruition with the tips, tools, and techniques found in Choosing Fierce. **** Blessed be Adonai [Lord, Master], My Rock, who taught my hands how to fight; who taught my fingers how to do battle. -Psalm 144:1 |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: In Sickness and in Health David Hawkins, 2019-02-19 Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? When you first met your spouse you probably had a physical response to the emotions you felt. You’d get butterflies in your stomach, your heart would race, and your palms would sweat. So why is it that after you’re married, it’s so hard to make the connection between your physical health and your emotional well-being when you’re facing relational stress? If your emotional pain feels physical and your physical pain feels emotional, your marriage may be making you sick—literally. Join Dr. David Hawkins and his sons, an internist and a surgeon, as they explore the effects relational stress and trauma can have on our bodies. You will learn to . . . recognize the link between emotional and physical pain embrace the power of choice to become empowered by hope find a path forward to ultimate restoration and regain your life No matter what kind of pain you’re experiencing, or how long your health has been in decline, you don’t have to stay stuck. Discover hope and healing when you take control of your life. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The 4 Seasons of Marriage Gary Chapman, 2012-09 Compares the transitional cycles of marriage to those of nature, describes the attitudes and emotions of each season, and offers seven strategies that enable couples to enhance and improve their marital relationship. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Self-Centered Spouse Brad Hambrick, 2014-05-05 Brad Hambrick examines Jesus teachings about broken relationships and shares strategies for interacting with a chronically self-centered spouse, bringing hope to victims of marital abuse and neglect. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Emotionally Abused Woman Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C., 2017-11-21 “A sensible book, full of insight and hope,”* that offers support and guidance in freeing emotionally abused women from the cycle of abuse and establishing new healthy patterns of relating to others. *Booklist • Does your husband or lover constantly criticize you and put his needs before yours? • Do you sometimes wonder if your best friend is truly a friend? • Does your boss try to control your every move? • Does your fear of being left alone keep you in chronically hurtful relationships? If any of these questions sound familiar, you could very well be suffering from emotional abuse—the most widespread but also the most hidden abuse that women experience. This type of abuse is just as damaging as physical or sexual abuse. But there is help in this invaluable compassionate sourcebook. As a marriage, family, and child therapist who has grappled with these issues herself, Beverly Engel guides you through a step-by-step recover process, helping you shed the habits begun in childhood and take the first few steps toward healthy change. Using numerous examples drawn from case history and her own therapeutic expertise, Engel will show you how to • Recognize and understand the abusers in your life • Identify the patterns that have kept you emotionally trapped • Complete your unfinished business • Decide whether to walk away from an abusive relationship or take a stand and stay • Heal the damage of abuse by building self-esteem • Break the cycle of abuse and open yourself to the promise of healthy relationships |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Emotional Abuse Recovery Marjorie Lise, 2020-10-26 Stop Suffering In Silence & Finally Heal From Emotionally Abusive Relationship With The Help Of This POWERFUL Guide! Are you constantly feeling emotionally tortured and betrayed by someone you used to love and adore? Do you see no point in even trying to get out because your abusive partner has taken full control of your life? Do you feel suffocated and helpless because it just seems like no one understands, or knows how to help you? If you want to stop all these in your life, then keep reading... Going through, and subsequently healing from emotional abuse is easier said than done. Most times, abuse victims feel blamed for staying or getting themselves into that kind of relationship in the first place. Abuse survivor turned domestic violence advocate, Marjorie Lise, knows this story all too well. Lise had stayed with her abusive partner for an entire decade, before realizing that she deserved better. In her book, she talks about how she was able to successfully stop suffering in silence and finally escape her abuser, with the hope that her experience will inspire others to take back control of their lives, too. Lise wants people like you to know that there is HOPE! Emotional Abuse Recovery, the only book you'll ever need to get out of an emotionally abusive relationship and finally start to heal! Here's a taste of what you'll discover inside Emotional Abuse Recovery Unmistakable signs to watch out for to accurately recognize and effectively address toxic relationships, manipulative people and emotional abusers Destructive ways that emotional manipulation can affect a person for the rest of their life Detailed and clear guidelines in taking the first steps in dealing with your abuser, starting the healing process, and taking back control of your life Proven methods in creating an air-tight safety plan that will help you get out of EVERY sticky, abusive situation Effective techniques to maximize the positive effects that guided journaling can do in easing negative emotions stemming from abuse Actionable tips that help you be and stay strong during the critical recovery stage, so you won't feel the need to give in or go back to your abuser ever again Highly reliable, helpful, and easily accessible resources that you can use whenever you need emotional, physical, and mental help And much, much more... ** FAST ACTION FREE Bonus: Get a simple and powerful resource that will help you easily understand, quickly recall and immediately practice all your new knowledge and skills, even if you are feeling completely alone and utterly helpless in a toxic, abusive relationship! ** If you're ready to finally heal from your trauma, experience emotionally healthy relationships that you deserve, and say goodbye to your abusive torturer for good, now is the time. So, what are you waiting for? Scroll up to the top of this page and click the BUY NOW button! |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: How to Find Selfless Joy in a Me-First World Leslie Vernick, 2003-09-16 Do You Need Greater Self-Esteem–Or Something Else Entirely? Western culture increasingly emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-esteem. Many of us believe we must “find” ourselves–and feel good about what we see–before we can experience significant spiritual growth. Focusing so much on ourselves, however, distracts us from pursuing the only source of true fulfillment. Do we, as God’s people, really need to love ourselves more? Or is there a wiser, biblical path that can lead us to joy that is not self-centered and fleeting, but God-focused and lasting? Challenging the current fascination with self esteem, Leslie Vernick answers these questions and others that trip up Christians today. Offering surprising insights and practical helps that can make a real difference in your life, she shows how you can experience greater personal, relational, and spiritual growth while humbly adoring and glorifying your God. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Dating and the Single Parent Ron L. Deal, 2012-10-01 Trustworthy Stepfamily Expert Offers Single Parents a Guide to Dating Single parents who are dating or want to begin a dating relationship wonder, How will dating affect my children and my parenting? They probably have figured out that dating in a crowd is complicated. Now they're looking for help. Ron Deal, who has counseled single parents and remarried couples for many years, helps single parents--as well as those who date them--navigate the potential pitfalls involved. He gives perspective on when a relationship may be harmful to the children as well as how it can be a blessing to all. Always at the forefront is the goal of strengthening families. Includes questions for individual or group study. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Intimate Deception Dr. Sheri Keffer, 2018-03-20 Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Wounded by Words Susan Titus Osborn, Karen L. Kosman, Jeenie Gordon, 2008 In Wounded by Words, the authors explore how emotional abusers isolate, disorient, and indoctrinate their victims and how their unkind words leave lasting scars. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Getting Over the Blues Leslie Vernick, 2005 One in five women will experience clinical depression in her lifetime. Christian counselor Leslie Vernick offers words of hope and encouragement as she helps women understand the symptoms of depression, what causes depression, and what steps they can take not only to get better but to grow stronger. Employing godly wisdom and surprising insights, Leslie addresses the following: Depression is revealing something about you. Listen to it. Growth takes time and practice. Things are not hopeless, you are not helpless, and you are not worthless. Getting over the Blues is a timely resource for women battling depression and the men and women who love them and want to understand what they are going through. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Sacred Influence Gary L. Thomas, 2009-05-26 God calls women to influence and move their husbands in positive ways. Applying the concepts from his bestseller, Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas offers a view through a man’s eyes. Here’s the inside scoop on what men find motivating—with inspiring real-life stories of women who are employing this knowledge to transform their marriages. Sacred Influence doesn’t flinch from difficult marital problems. But by using this faith-focused approach, you’ll see how to help your husband become the man God intends him to be. At the same time, God will shape you to be the woman he designed you to be. God has given godly women a wonderful power to influence and encourage their husbands. What’s the secret? This book will provide challenges, examples, and hope to women who want to love their husbands well and be loved well in return. --Dennis Rainey, President of Family Life |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Friendships of Women Dee Brestin, 2010-01-01 In The Friendships of Women, Dee Brestin encourages you to listen to your need for friendships and to find and strengthen those relationships. Relying on key biblical stories, Dee explores what the story of Ruth teaches us about rapport talk, how Luke celebrates the power of women's intuition, and what we can learn about avoiding unhealthy dependency from one of the most significant friendships in the Old Testament. With a passion borne from an intense belief in the power of friendship, Dee guides your relationships to new levels of intimacy and trust. Engaging, honest, and deeply personal, The Friendships of Women will inspire you to see your desire for friendship not as a burden but as a gift. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Summary of Leslie Vernick's The Emotionally Destructive Marriage Everest Media,, 2022-03-24T22:59:00Z Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 Marriages are in dire straits all over the world. Christian marriages are no exception. You may feel as if you are in a D-minus marriage, and have no idea what to do. I have help for you. #2 Anna’s marriage is not destructive, but it is disappointing and painful for her. She’s not sure how to continue or even if she wants to. Yet she knows to end her marriage for these reasons would crush Mark and her children, as well as dishonor her vows to God and her husband. #3 It is impossible to love your husband in a warm and wifely way right now, but God still wants you to love him, even if he feels like your enemy. Biblically loving your husband doesn’t require you to prop him up in order to enable him to continue to hurt you. #4 The author’s wife, Anna, is not in a destructive marriage, but she is in a disappointing one. Anna’s unhappiness is like a sore in her soul that she must tend to if she wants it to heal. If she continues to pick at it, it will become inflamed and affect her marriage and her entire life. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors Laura Doyle, 2015 Every marriage has its rough patches. If you're wondering how to repair yours, step away from the therapist, put down the magazine, and pick up this book. If you want to build a long, happy, fulfilling marriage, why not learn from the women who've done it? Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble. After five years, her husband had become distant. He seemed checked out of their relationship, preferring watching TV to making love. There were frequent fights that ended with tense silences and even threats of divorce. Marriage counseling actually made their problems worse. Each session seemed to reinforce the feeling that she and her husband were just too far apart. Desperate to avoid divorcing the man she loved, Laura tried something different. Rather than consulting with experts or professionals, she simply started talking to women who'd been happily married for more than fifteen years. What she discovered shocked her. Everything she had heard in marriage counseling was wrong. Laura realized that there are some basic truths to relationships that can help women maintain loving, intimate marriages, such as: The happiness of your relationship is up to you! Women hold the keys to a happy relationship 95 percent of the time (and will learn what to do the other 5 percent). What men want most of all is to be treated with respect. Treat your man with respect (even if you aren't feeling it), and he will treat you with love and care. Your man wants to know he has your trust. Give it to him, and he'll realize you are special, because you will be! After seeing her own marriage transform, Laura set out to help other women do the same. In this book, you'll learn Laura's Six Intimacy Skills, which have been used by over 50,000 women who have transformed their previously unhappy marriages into blissful unions. Stop reading articles about how important it is to schedule date night, and learn how to transform your relationship into one bursting with energy, intimacy, and love. First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors will put you on the path to having the marriage you want with the man you love-- |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Anatomy of an Affair Dave Carder, 2017-09-05 When it comes to adultery, never say, “It won’t happen to me.” Just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. With eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, Dave Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way—and what they want the rest of us to know to save us the pain. Dave Carder, counselor and author of the bestselling Torn Asunder (100,000 in print), is a sought-after expert on issues of adultery. Here he helps you make your marriage adultery-proof by showing you: How attractions can lead to affairs Ways you may be vulnerable to affairs The common ingredients of adultery How to restore intimacy to your marriage How to make wise, protective decisions Marriage is too sacred to be taken casually. Affairs are a very real threat, and they can destroy lives and families. For this reason, Anatomy of an Affair should be on every church leader’s and marriage counselor’s required reading list, and in the home of every married couple. Includes charts and assessments to understand and guard against affairs. This book is the revised edition of Close Calls (2008) |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship Dr. Ramona Probasco, 2018-06-19 One out of every four women in the United States will experience some form of domestic violence or abuse in her lifetime. Through Dr. Ramona Probasco's own powerful personal story of coming out of an abusive relationship, along with her twenty years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, she takes readers through a proven, step-by-step process for moving from victim to survivor to overcomer. With genuine empathy, she encourages the reader to call it what it is, understand the mindset of the abuser, break the cycle of violence, recognize what forgiveness is and is not, find a healthy support system, and more. Each chapter ends with a simple, heartfelt prayer, Scriptural promises readers can apply to their situation, and questions for further reflection. Readers are encouraged to go through the book individually, with a counselor, or as part of a support group. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of race, education, socioeconomic status, or culture. But it does not have to be the end of the story. Healing well and living free are within reach. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Distant Partner Les Carter, 1997 Distant Partner is a book for those who have a relationship with too much busyness and not enogh personal sharing. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Divorcing and Healing from a Narcissist Dr Theresa J Covert, 2020-11-06 A life changing book for anyone trapped in an unhealthy marriage or relationship. Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. Does any of this sound familiar? - Do you try to calmly talk with them about basic things, only for it to end up in an argument? - Were they once incredibly charming and said all the right things, but now they are mean, apathetic, or passive aggressive? - Have you tried to change yourself or your feelings, because you know they refuse to change, merely because they don't think they have to? - Do you feel incredibly alone, like no one will understand, because to everyone else they are perfect? - Have you been cheated on yet somehow they make it your fault? - Or perhaps you have already broken up, yet you are constantly sucked back in by their begging, promises to change, or even threats? - Have you promised yourself that you will end the relationship, only to find yourself going back to them because you feel guilty, sorry for them, or afraid of being alone or good? You are in a relationship with a narcissist, and if you haven't figured it out already, they will never, ever change. It is difficult to get divorced or break up with a narcissist without someone who has been through the same experiences you have. Otherwise, you may make costly financial mistakes by hiring the wrong attorney or giving away your assets, all because you don't know any better. You can stay in the relationship and be unhappy, or you can choose to break free. But how do you actually break free? It is not easy, I know. Because I have been there. I was you. WHAT YOU NEED NOW: -Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside. -Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create. I can't promise you that reading to this book is going to be a total cure, but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILLIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first 3 days. This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly report What's Holding You Back? -What if they find out I'm taking this book? You can read this book on any mobile device and download the audio version and listen it when you are away from your home. -I'm afraid of really hearing the truth. My book is designed with YOU in mind, and all of the information is delivered to you in a loving, gentle manner. You will never be put down by me, and I will never make you feel bad about all that you have endured. In fact, you will learn strategies on how to overcome your fears as well as have real scripts on how to talk to your narcissist, your lawyer, your family and children. You will not only feel heard, but you will feel confident and supported! - I'm not ready to do anything just yet. I'll sign up when I'm ready to take action. This book doesn't force you to do anything you're not ready to do. You have all the time in the world to complete it, and you do it on your terms and at your speed. Why not get those tools right now? The beauty of this book is that if you choose not to take action for several more months, it's here when you're ready. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Women with Controlling Partners Carol A Lambert, 2016-12-01 A controlling or abusive partner can break even the strongest person—unless you know what to look for. Written by an expert in intimate partner abuse and based on her highly successful recovery program for women with controlling partners, this book will give you the strength, courage, and strategies you need to acknowledge the problem and stand up for yourself once and for all—whether you stay or leave the relationship. If you have a controlling partner, you aren’t alone. Millions of women suffer psychological abuse at the hands of a spouse or intimate partner during some point in their lives, not fully seeing or knowing what is happening to them. Research shows that psychological abuse affects women’s overall well-being more than physical abuse, is a bigger contributor to inducing fear, and can be a precursor to violence. To make matters worse, having a controlling partner often results in hidden injuries like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, trauma, and low self-efficacy—feeling like you can’t make a difference in your life. So, where can you turn for help? Based on over a decade of clinical and domestic abuse research, Women with Controlling Partners will help you identify the coercive constraints that can be predictive of intimate partner abuse, recognize the harmful effects of psychological abuse on your mental and physical health, and gain the personal strength and power to break free. Using the author’s three-stage recovery model, you’ll be empowered to move out of denial, deconstruct what holds you psychologically captive, and take back your life. Abuse can be devastating, and having a controlling partner can make you feel crazy—and as if you’re the one responsible. But you’re not crazy, and you’re not to blame! With this important, one-of-a-kind recovery process, you’ll finally find the clarity of mind, courage, and strength to protect yourself from the hurtful control that damages your mental and physical health, and move toward a safer and happier life. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: When Loving Him Is Hurting You David Hawkins, 2017-10-01 It's Okay to Have Needs of Your Own You fell in love with him. But over time you've come to realize he's in love with himself—and you feel trapped. His needs, his problems, and his plans always seem to take precedence over yours. Dr. David Hawkins, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, offers a guide to help you identify signs of narcissism, understand how your loved one's issues are affecting you, and prepare a biblical game plan for freeing yourself to live courageously in light of God's love. Whether the man in your life can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), exhibits narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive behavior, or has arrogant and self-centered tendencies, the emotional pain he causes you is very real. Discover the truths, wisdom, and grace you need to spark change in your relationship, set boundaries, and experience healing. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Lindsay C. Gibson, 2015-06-01 A New York Times bestseller—with more than one million copies sold! If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Men Are Like Waffles--Women Are Like Spaghetti Bill Farrel, Pam Farrel, 2017-01-01 Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghettihas helped thousands of couples understand each other better. I will continue to recommend this book as a must read. —Gary Chapman, bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages® Pam and Bill Farrel have the ability to take an everyday menu of spaghetti and waffles and transform biblical, practical wisdom into a word picture that has encouraged, equipped, and inspired couples worldwide. —Dr. Kevin Leman, bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music Let Your Differences Make You Irresistible to Each Other While a man tends to deal with one problem or purpose at a time (moving from waffle square to waffle square), a woman's thoughts generally flow together (like spaghetti noodles). Once you discover how your spouse processes feelings and thoughts, you're on your way to a happy and healthy relationship! Join more than 300,000 other readers as you learn to energize your communication with strategies that work, ignite romance with new ideas to spice up your marriage, and empower your parenting with your combined insights and influence. Find all the ingredients for creating a fabulous recipe of loving, working, and winning together! |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: If I Had a Parenting Do-Over Jonathan McKee, 2017-02-01 Ever wish parenting came with a do-over button? “Here’s where I messed up. . . Whenever I say those words during my parenting workshops, you can hear a pin drop. Parents are on the edges of their seats. “And here’s what I’d do differently next time. . . That’s when every pen in the room begins writing furiously. Let’s face it. Hindsight is 20/20. If you ever find yourself saying I wish I had a do-over. . . You're not alone! Join author and youth culture expert, Jonathan McKee, as he shares from his own personal parenting experiences of raising three kids, while making purposeful, effective tweaks along the way. Delivered with a refreshing blend of humor and vulnerability, the author's candid style and real-world application will equip you with solid, helpful practices you can actually use in your own home. With chapters like Let It Go, Press Pause, and Tip the Scales, McKee provides the honest answers you're seeking as you parent your kids. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Running on Empty No More Jonice Webb, 2017-11-07 “Opens doors to richer, more connected relationships by naming the elephant in the room ‘Childhood Emotional Neglect’” (Harville Hendrix, PhD & Helen Lakelly Hunt, PhD, authors of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want). Since the publication of Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, many thousands of people have learned that invisible Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN, has been weighing on them their entire lives, and are now in the process of recovery. Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships will offer even more solutions for the effects of CEN on people’s lives: how to talk about CEN, and heal it, in relationships with partners, parents, and children. “Filled with examples of well-meaning people struggling in their relationships, Jonice Webb not only illustrates what’s missing between adults and their parents, husbands, and their wives, and parents and their children; she also explains exactly what to do about it.” —Terry Real, internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author, Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, Oprah, and The New York Times “You will find practical solutions for everyday life to heal yourself and your relationships. This is a terrific new resource that I will be recommending to many clients now and in the future!” —Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: For Better Or for Best Gary Smalley, Steve Scott, 1982 A ... guide to knowing, understanding, and loving your husband. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Lundy Bancroft, JAC Patrissi, 2011-11-01 From the bestselling author of Why Does He Do That? comes a relationship book that will help you make the decision of whether or not your troubled relationship is worth saving. Every relationship has problems, but you can’t figure out if yours is beyond hope. How bad is too bad—and can your partner really change? Now, in this warm, supportive, and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft and women’s advocate JAC Patrissi offer a way for you to practically and realistically take stock of your relationship and move forward. If you’re involved in a chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationship, the advice and exercises in this book will help you learn to: • Tell the difference between a healthy—yet difficult—relationship and one that is really not working • Recognize the signs that your partner has serious problems • Stop waiting to see what will happen—and make your own growth the top priority • Design a clear plan of action for you and your partner • Navigate the waters of a relationship that’s improving • Prepare for life without your partner, even as you keep trying to make life work with them |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: The Search for Significance Robert McGee, 2003 Discover what two million readers have already discovered: that true significance is found only in Christ. Robert McGee's best-selling book has helped millions of readers learn how to be free to enjoy Christ's love while no longer basing their self-worth on their accomplishments or the opinions of others. In fact, Billy Graham said that it was a book that should be read by every Christian. In this re-launch of this timeless classic you will: Gain new skills for getting off the performance treadmill Discover how four false beliefs have negatively impacted your life Learn how to overcome obstacles that prevent you from experiencing the truth that your self-worth is found only in the love, acceptance, and forgiveness of Christ Other products in the Search for Significance family of products include a devotional journal and youth edition. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Every Woman's Battle Shannon Ethridge, 2014-06-25 When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar. The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday. |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Called to Peace Joy Forrest, 2018-04-03 A Survivor's Guide to Finding Peace and Healing After Domestic Abuse |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Divorce Busting Michele Weiner-Davis, 1992 A marriage counseling guide teaches readers how to target their present marital problems and set attainable goals for the future with strategies that help break destructive behavior patterns |
| the emotionally destructive marriage: Escaping Emotional Abuse Beverly Engel, 2020-12-29 Does your partner blame you for his or her own problems? Does your partner humiliate you, especially in front of others? Is your partner impossible to please? Are you convinced something is wrong with you? Are you too ashamed to admit you are being abused? In Escaping Emotional Abuse, Beverly Engel, world-renowned therapist and expert in emotional abuse, exposes techniques an abuser uses to break your spirit and gain control - and guides you in how to free yourself from the shame that can keep you from the life, and the love, that you deserve. By using your deepest fears against you, the abuser strips you of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity - making you feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But you possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows you how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps you jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help you heal and regain self-confidence. An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships. |
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