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| overcoming religious sexual shame: Insatiable Wives David J. Ley, 2009-12-16 This enlightening work investigates the history, incidence, and causes of a unique sexual lifestyle pursued by increasing numbers of couples. It is called by many names, and lived in a variety of ways by different couples. The most common terms used to describe it are 'hotwife' or 'cuckold lifestyle.' This sexual practice, a form of sexual nonmonogamy, is distinguished from swinging and polyamory in that the husband rarely seeks sexual contact outside the marriage except for participation in group sex with his wife and other men, while the wife is permitted and often encouraged to pursue unrestrained sexual encounters with other men. The author includes interviews and comments from couples living the lifestyle throughout the U.S., and presents the stories in an attempt to determine the history of this sexual practice and its role in society and in relationships. He explores the psychological, social, biological, and evolutionary underpinnings of this uncommon and socially taboo behavior in an effort to make it more comprehensible to those engaged in the lifestyle and those who are just curious. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Beyond Shame Matthias Roberts, 2020-01-07 We all carry sexual shame. Whether we grew up in the repressive purity culture of American Evangelical Christianity or not, we've all been taught in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that sex (outside of very specific contexts) is immoral and taboo. Licensed mental health counselor Matthias Roberts helps readers overcome their shame around sex by overcoming three unhealthy coping mechanisms we use to manage that shame. Beyond Shame encourages each of us to determine our own definition of healthy sex, while avoiding the ditches of boundaryless sex positivity on the one hand and strict moralistic boundaries on the other. Define your sexual values on your own terms, overcome your shame, and start having great, healthy sex. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Sex, God, and the Conservative Church Tina Schermer Sellers, 2017-04-21 Sex, God, and the Conservative Church guides psychotherapy and sexology clinicians on how to treat clients who grew up in a conservative faith—mired in sexual shame and dysfunction—and who desire to both heal and hold on to their faith orientation. The author first walks clinicians and readers through a critique of Western culture and the conservative Christian Church, and their effects on intimate partnerships and sexual lives. The book provides clinicians a way to understand the faulty sexual ethic of the early church, while revealing the hidden mystical sex and body positive understanding of sexuality of the Hebrew people. The book also includes chapters on strategies for a new sexual ethic, on clinical steps to heal religious sexual shame, and on specific sex therapy interventions clinicians can use directly in their practice. Finally, it offers a four step model for healing religious sexual shame and actual touch and non-touch exercises to bring healing and intimacy into a person's life. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Shameless Nadia Bolz-Weber, 2019-01-29 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Raw, intimate, and timely—a no-holds-barred celebration of our bodies that flies in the face of antiquated ideas about sex and gender. “A triumph.”—Glennon Doyle • “One of the most important, life-changing books I’ve ever read.”—Rachel Held Evans, author of Searching for Sunday and Inspired Negative messages about sex come from all corners of society: from the church, from the media, from our own families. As a result, countless people have suffered pain, guilt, and judgment. In this instant bestseller, Nadia Bolz-Weber unleashes her critical eye and her vulnerable yet hopeful soul on the harmful conversations about sex that have fed our shame. Bolz-Weber offers no simple amendments or polite compromises. Instead, this modern-day reverend calls for an inclusivity that empowers us to be loyal to people and, perhaps most important, ourselves. “Christianity is not a program for avoiding mistakes,” she writes. “It is a faith of the guilty.” With an alternative understanding of Scripture passages that have been weaponized against Christians for decades, Bolz-Weber reminds us that sexual flourishing can and should be for all genders, all bodies, and all humans. She shares stories, poetry, and Scripture that wage war on perpetual anxiety around sex by celebrating sexuality in all its forms and recognizing it for the gift that it is. If you’ve been mistreated, confused, angered, and/or wounded by shaming sexual messages, this one is for you. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Rid of My Disgrace Justin S. Holcomb, Lindsey A. Holcomb, 2011 Helps adult victims of sexual assault move from brokenness to healing. This book outlines a theology or redemption and includes an application of how the disgrace of the cross can lead victims toward grace. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Pure Linda Kay Klein, 2019-07-02 In Pure, Linda Kay Klein uses a potent combination of journalism, cultural commentary, and memoir to take us “inside religious purity culture as only one who grew up in it can” (Gloria Steinem) and reveals the devastating effects evangelical Christianity’s views on female sexuality has had on a generation of young women. In the 1990s, a “purity industry” emerged out of the white evangelical Christian culture. Purity rings, purity pledges, and purity balls came with a dangerous message: girls are potential sexual “stumbling blocks” for boys and men, and any expression of a girl’s sexuality could reflect the corruption of her character. This message traumatized many girls—resulting in anxiety, fear, and experiences that mimicked the symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder—and trapped them in a cycle of shame. This is the sex education Linda Kay Klein grew up with. Fearing being marked a Jezebel, Klein broke up with her high school boyfriend because she thought God told her to and took pregnancy tests despite being a virgin, terrified that any sexual activity would be punished with an out-of-wedlock pregnancy. When the youth pastor of her church was convicted of sexual enticement of a twelve-year-old girl, Klein began to question purity-based sexual ethics. She contacted young women she knew, asking if they were coping with the same shame-induced issues she was. These intimate conversations developed into a twelve-year quest that took her across the country and into the lives of women raised in similar religious communities—a journey that facilitated her own healing and led her to churches that are seeking a new way to reconcile sexuality and spirituality. Pure is “a revelation... Part memoir and part journalism, Pure is a horrendous, granular, relentless, emotionally true account (The Cut) of society’s larger subjugation of women and the role the purity industry played in maintaining it. Offering a prevailing message of resounding hope and encouragement, “Pure emboldens us to escape toxic misogyny and experience a fresh breath of freedom” (Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Love Warrior and founder of Together Rising). |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Coming Home to Passion Ruth Cohn, 2011-02-18 This book offers a detailed road map for overcoming sexual and relationship impasses originating from painful childhood experiences. Large numbers of adults with histories of childhood trauma and neglect suffer persistent relationship and sexual difficulties. Unfortunately, most have failed to receive adequate help with emerging from these deep and complex problems. Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect explores the enduring impacts—physiological, psychological, and behavioral—of childhood trauma and neglect. Author Ruth Cohn, drawing on 25 years of experience working with trauma survivors and their partners and families, lays out a practical and actionable course for recovery in clear, accessible language. This book provides direction and hope to those with trauma backgrounds while also serving as a unique resource for professional readers. Integrating in-depth information on attachment and relationship, trauma and neglect, and sexuality, Cohn details a practical, hands-on treatment approach for revitalizing love, health, and passion. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Wild at Heart Revised and Updated John Eldredge, 2011-04-17 John Eldredge revises and updates his best-selling, renowned Christian classic, Wild at Heart, and in it invites men to: Recover their masculine heart. See themselves in the image of a passionate god. Delight in the strength and wildness men were created to offer. In this provocative book, Eldredge provides a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be—dangerous, passionate, alive, and free. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Can Christianity Cure Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder? Ian Osborn, 2008-04-01 Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a relentless condition, the primary symptom being the occurrence of terrifying ideas, images, and urges that jump into a person's mind and return again and again, despite the individual's attempt to remove them. Christians who suffer from OCD may grapple with additional guilt, as the undesired thoughts are frequently of a spiritual nature. Yet people may be surprised to learn that some of the greatest leaders in Christian history also struggled with this malady. What did they experience? How did they cope? Were they able to overcome these tormenting, often violent, obsessions? Where did God fit into the picture? Ian Osborn shares the personal accounts of Martin Luther, John Bunyan, and Saint Thérèse of Lisieux, as well as his own story, in exploring how faith and science work together to address this complex issue. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Healing the Hurts of Your Past F. Remy Diederich, 2011-11 Do you find that you are your own worst enemy? Are you your biggest critic? Do others believe in you, but you find yourself filled with doubt? Why is that? You are not alone in this. Many of us do the same thing. Why do we so often sabotage the success we long for? The answer, in a word, is shame. Shame plays a vital role in our lives and is often overlooked. Shame can come from many things such as addiction and the hurts of our past. How we deal with those issues can be the difference between healing and rising from the ashes as a more confident and powerful person to being stuck in the same old rut. What do you want to do? Are you reading to start dealing with the pain and find real healing? This book is not a feel-good story but a roll-up your sleeves down and dirty look at the pain of shame. F. Remy Diederich helps you connect the dots to your self-defeating behavior and then gives you practical how-to advice about how a true understanding of God's love can free you to live the life you've always wanted. If you have been searching for a way to find Christian counseling or addiction treatment or just repairing the damage that has been done by living with the lies and hurts of your past, Healing the Hurts of Your Past is a powerful first step to freedom. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Healing the Shame that Binds You John Bradshaw, 2005-10-15 This classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author. I used to drink, writes John Bradshaw,to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed. Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: The Catholic Gentleman Sam Guzman, Dale Ahlquist, 2019-05-13 What it means to be a man or a woman is questioned today like never before. While traditional gender roles have been eroding for decades, now the very categories of male and female are being discarded with reckless abandon. How does one act like a gentleman in such confusing times? The Catholic Gentleman is a solid and practical guide to virtuous manhood. It turns to the timeless wisdom of the Catholic Church to answer the important questions men are currently asking. In short, easy- to-read chapters, the author offers pithy insights on a variety of topics, including How to know you are an authentic man Why our bodies matter The value of tradition The purpose of courtesy What real holiness is and how to achieve it How to deal with failure in the spiritual life |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Affect Theory, Shame, and Christian Formation Stephanie N. Arel, 2016-11-08 This book addresses the eclipse of shame in Christian theology by showing how shame emerges in Christian texts and practice in ways that can be neither assimilated into a discourses of guilt nor dissociated from embodiment. Stephanie N. Arel argues that the traditional focus on guilt obscures shame by perpetuating the image of the lonely sinner in guilt. Drawing on recent studies in affect and attachment theories to frame the theological analysis, the text examines the theological anthropological writings of Augustine and Reinhold Niebuhr, the interpretation of empathy by Edith Stein, and moments of touch in Christian praxis. Bringing the affective dynamics of shame to the forefront enables theologians and religious leaders to identify where shame emerges in language and human behavior. The text expands work in trauma theory, providing a multi-layered theological lens for engaging shame and accompanying suffering. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Passion Pursuit Linda Dillow, Dr. Juli Slattery, 2013-07-22 A Bible study about sex for women? Now that’s different! This new study, Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?, lets God’s Word speak about sex as being holy and erotic, blessed by God, and satisfying far beyond what the world can even imagine. Picture that as a headline on the cover of Cosmopolitan! By using scripture throughout the Bible, Passion Pursuit not only urges women to pursue passion but details how God has given them permission to do so. Though there is fun to be had along the way in this study, it hits hard on the questions women have but are hesitant to ask, like: What does God say is okay and not okay in the bedroom? I’m 54 years old; how can my husband still be attracted to me? Why did God make men and women so different? This audaciously bold study combines the psychological expertise of Dr Juli Slattery, formerly of Focus on the Family, along with moving stories from trusted Bible teacher and best-selling author Linda Dillow. The groups who have already done this study have seen their marriages come alive, whether they’ve been married four months or forty years; be next! PLUS! Check out the Passion Pursuit DVD for even more great teaching from Lisa Dillow and Dr. Slattery. It's the perfect resource for individuals or small groups. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Unashamed Christine Caine, 2016-05-10 Bestselling author, speaker, and activist Christine Caine helps you overcome past guilt and live an unashamed life. Shame can take on many forms. It hides in the shadows of the most successful, confident and high-achieving woman who struggles with balancing her work and children, as well as in the heart of the broken, abused and downtrodden woman who has been told that she will never amount to anything. Shame hides in plain sight and can hold us back in ways we do not realize. But Christine Caine wants readers to know something: we can all be free. “I know. I’ve been there,” writes Christine. “I was schooled in shame. It has been my constant companion from my very earliest memories. I see shame everywhere I look in the world, including in the church. It creeps from heart to heart, growing in shadowy places, feeding on itself so that those struggling with it are too shamed to seek help from shame itself.” In Unashamed, Christine reveals the often-hidden consequences of shame—in her own life and the lives of so many Christian women—and invites you to join her in moving from a shame-filled to a shame-free life. In her passionate and candid style, Christine leads you into God’s Word where you will see for yourself how to believe that God is bigger than your mistakes, your inadequacies, your past, and your limitations. He is not only more powerful than anything you’ve done but also stronger than anything ever done to you. You can deal with your yesterday today, so that you can move on to what God has in store for you tomorrow—a powerful purpose and destiny he wants you to fulfill. Join the journey. Lay ahold of the power of Jesus Christ today and step into the future—his future for you—a beautiful, full, life-giving future, where you can even become a shame-lifter to others. Live unashamed! Dive deeper into the Unashamed message with the Unashamed video study and study guide. Available now. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Surprised by the Healer Linda Dillow, Dr. Juli Slattery, 2016-01-21 The Healer is inviting you… God’s word declares that there is healing for your deepest pains, hope for your biggest disappointments, and victory over your addictions, past hurts, and past failures. His name is Jehovah Rapha, the God Who Heals, and He can redeem your broken story. In these pages, you will meet nine courageous women who have agreed to tell their stories, to share with you how they moved from hopelessness and brokenness to hope and healing. Whether from sexual abuse, betrayal in marriage, or other harrowing experiences, the Healer invited them on a unique journey of redemption in the midst of deep pain. He is inviting you, too. Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery, cofounders of Authentic Intimacy, have been writing and ministering to women in the church and clinical context for several decades. Their wisdom and experience overflow in this work to give you a trusted resource in journeying toward healing. Includes a study guide for each chapter in the back of the book. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: From Pain to Power Mary Ellen Mann, 2015-09-22 Sexual violation was not your choice, but recovery is. As a survivor of sexual trauma, you’ve likely experienced feelings of shame and confusion, and weakening of your faith and trust. It may feel like no one understands. And each day you’re simply trying to survive. But the reality is you are meant for much more than survival. You are born with the right to use the pain as a point of power and reclaim what was taken without permission—your true identity. Author Mary Ellen Mann understands. She’s been there. In From Pain to Power, she weaves personal story and years of research and counseling experience to provide comfort and respect, biblical insight, guided imagery, and self-care strategies. She will help you: · Regain your power, safety, and sense of self · Go to battle as a “Princess Warrior” · Learn to trust your gut instinct again · Protect yourself from further assault · Reconcile your faith in God, who understands your doubt and anger Mary Ellen Mann stands in your corner as you restore and honor your rightful femininity, find your voice of reason, and choose to live a legacy-filled life. Includes tips and resources for spouses, parents, ministry leaders, and advocates who want to help survivors of sexual assault. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Making All Things New David Powlison, 2017-08-15 Sexuality was a part of God's good creation from the beginning. But with sin came a world filled with sexual brokenness. Thankfully, God is always in the business of restoration. This book offers hope for both the sexually immoral and the sexually victimized, pointing us all to the grace of Jesus Christ, who mercifully intervenes each moment in our lifelong journey toward renewal. Author David Powlison casts a vision for the key to deep transformation, better than anything the world has to offer—not just fresh resolve, not just flimsy forgiveness, not just simple formulas, but true, lasting mercy from God, who is making all things new. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: No Stones Marnie C. Ferree, 2013-07-08 In this book Marnie C. Ferree offers a unique resource for women struggling with sexual addiction. Written by a counselor who understands the condition from the inside out, No Stones offers practical help for those battling sexual addiction and those who want to come alongside women as they seek help. Important for pastors and church leaders, this book will also be a much sought-after resource for Christian counselors and therapists counseling women who grapple with this type of addiction. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Sexual Sanity for Men David White, 2012-10-31 Written for Christian men struggling with any form of sexual brokenness, this resource helps men understand that sexual sin starts in their minds and hearts and shows them how knowing Christ breaks their chains, builds spiritual brotherhood, and helps them take practical steps to re-create their minds in a God-focused direction. The ... |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Helping Jesus Fulfill Prophecy Robert J Miller, 2017-01-26 It's obvious that Jesus fulfilled prophecies about the promised Messiah - or so the gospels make it seem. But the real story is more complex, and more compelling. In hindsight we can see that Jesus had help fulfilling prophecy. The gospel writers skillfully manipulated prophecies - carefully lifting them out of context, creatively reinterpreting them, even rewriting them - to match what Jesus would do in fulfilling them. The evangelists also used the prophecies themselves to shape the very stories that show their fulfillment. This book describes in detail how Christian authors helped Jesus fulfill prophecy. Studies of Greek oracles, the Dead Sea Scrolls, translations of the Hebrew Scriptures into Greek and Aramaic, and the writings of Josephus explore the interpretive techniques that paved the way for the New Testament's manipulation of prophecy. This book analyzes how the belief that Jesus fulfilled prophecy became an argument to justify a new notion: the view that Christians had replaced Jews as God's chosen people. An aggressive anti-Judaism is analyzed in chapters on patristic theologians such as Justin Martyr and Augustine, who embedded it into the argument from prophecy. The book concludes with an ethical argument for whyChristians should retire the argument from prophecy. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Jung and Sex Edward Santana, 2016-10-04 C. G. Jung, despite not being widely known for his views on sexuality or the treatment of sexual issues, made extensive contributions to understanding the complexities of this field throughout his life. In Jung and Sex, Edward Santana makes the case that reclaiming this knowledge can address substantial problems with current treatments and support many who struggle with sexual issues. This thorough exploration of Jung’s approach to sexual issues presents a wide-ranging new look at his work and adds contemporary perspectives for helping those suffering with sexual difficulties. The book calls for an important bridging of clinical perspectives to address the contemporary challenges of complex sexual issues and brings attention to a large body of Jung’s work on human sexuality, ranging from pioneering thoughts on sexual expressions of the soul to understanding ways to treat sexual symptoms. Jung and Sex provides a comprehensive analysis of Jung’s views on, and clinical approaches to, sexual issues and treatments, using this knowledge in order to help those with sexual problems and the professionals who support them. It is an essential text for understanding critical dimensions of human sexuality. Jung and Sex is an important contribution that closes a gap in the literature of Jungian psychology. It offers unique insights into the subject for Jungian psychotherapists, analytical psychologists, sex therapists, and relationship counselors. The book also supports the work of academics and those interested in contemporary applications of Jungian and post-Jungian studies. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Sexual Anorexia Patrick J Carnes, 2009-08-07 A first-time examination of sexual anorexia, an extreme fear of sexual intimacy and obsessive avoidance of sex, by the acknowledged leader in the treatment of compulsive sexual behavior and recovery. Author Dr. Patrick Carnes begins by defining sexual anorexia and demonstrating how it and its parallel disorder, sexual addiction and compulsivity, often arise from a background of childhood sexual trauma, neglect, and other forms of abuse. Carnes explores the numerous dimensions of sexual health, examining key issues which must be addressed and resolved for recovery to proceed. Utilizing extensive research and elucidating case studies, Carnes develops concrete tasks and plans for restoring nurturing and sensuality, building fulfilling relationships, exploring intimacy, and creating healthy sexuality. Woven throughout the book are stories of recovery which illustrate sexual healing principles, model new behavior, and support motivation for change. Sexual Anorexia enables those suffering from this disorder to recognize that sex need not be a furtive enemy to be fought and defeated but, instead, a deeply sensual, passionate, fulfilling, and spiritual experience that all human beings are innately entitled to. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Rethinking Sexuality Dr. Juli Slattery, 2018-07-24 This ground-breaking resource challenges and equips Christians to think and act biblically and compassionately in matters of sexuality. Sexual abuse, sex addiction, gender confusion, brokenness, and shame plague today's world, and people are seeking clarity and hope. By contesting long-held cultural paradigms, this book equips you to see how sexuality is rooted in the broader context of God's heart and His work for us on earth. It provides a framework from which to understand the big picture of sexual challenges and wholeness, and helps you recognize that every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one. It shifts the paradigm from combating sexual problems to confidently proclaiming and modeling the road to sacred sexuality. Instead of arguing with the world about what's right and wrong about sexual choices, this practical resource equips you to share the love and grace of Jesus as you encounter the pain of sexual brokenness--your own or someone else's. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: From Madness to Mindfulness Jennifer Gunsaullus, 2019-08-13 “I learned about the mechanics of female sexual pleasure in my sex ed class.” “I am able to have a difficult conversation with my partner about our relationship.” “I can boldly and openly carry a tampon to the restroom in public.” I am able to pursue my pleasure and my partner's pleasure during sex. “I am totally comfortable being naked in front of a new partner.” If you disagreed with any of these statements (or all of them), you’re not alone. You are one of many, many women who are feeling the effects of “sexual madness.” According to Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, sociologist and sex coach, it’s time for women to break free from the societal baggage they carry in relation to sexual education, expectations, and fulfillment. From Madness to Mindfulness sets out to help women empower themselves to transition out of a state of sexual madness, and into a state of sexual mindfulness—a state in which women can give themselves permission to feel more worthy of love and great sex (and then have it!). Dr. Jenn will guide you through the process of assessing levels of “mis-education” in regard to relationships, communication, sex, passion, desire, and body image, and integrating mindfulness practices to overcome your own personal “madness.” Replete with personal anecdotes and a wide array of client stories, along with guided questions, action items, and tips to create a personal Reinventing Sex plan, Dr. Jenn will help you to become a thriving sexual being… on your own terms. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Sex and the Single Girl Dr. Juli Slattery, 2017-08-01 A study on sex that goes beyond just don't do it. Sexuality is a hot topic these days, and opinions are all over the place. A resource offering simple “do’s and don’ts” won’t cut it. Sex and the Single Girl fills the gap by providing a broader, more comprehensive understanding of what it means to honor God with our sexuality. This resource will equip single women to understand their sexuality, trust the Lord for redemption and healing, and stand against the cultural trends that marginalize and compromise God’s design for sex. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, cofounder of Authentic Intimacy, and author of several popular books, including 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy. She has devoted the last five years to equipping women with God’s truth about sexuality, and here she drives home the truth that every sexual choice is also a spiritual choice. The six-week study is broken down into five days for each week, covering: Why Sexuality Matters: The connection between spirituality and sexuality Embracing a Grand Design: God’s design and the beauty of living according to His wisdom. Sexuality and Your Character: How sexuality is part of worship and Christian identity. Sexual Boundaries: A very practical chapter providing a biblical grid for matters like masturbation, oral sex, and how far is too far to go in a dating relationship. Battling Temptation: A peak at “the enemy’s playbook,” helping women anticipate, prepare for, and stand against sexual temptation. Restoring Intimacy with God: How God can tear down the wall of sexual sin, shame, and confusion through forgiveness and redemption. This study has been tested through pilot groups with college women and other 20somethings. Revisedaccording to their feedback, it is primed and ready to help any single woman think biblically about sexuality, live accordingly, and experience the joy and freedom of doing so. Sex and the Single Girl is especially relevant today. One of the greatest threats to the modern church and emerging adults is the distortion of sexual design. Study after study has documented the proliferation of porn use (among both men and women), sexual exploitation on college campuses, experimentation with homosexuality and bi-sexuality, and the acceptability of multiple sexual partners. The average single Christian has received very little teaching on the purpose of sexuality, and a simple “just wait until you’re married” approach won’t cut it. Christian singles need to be equipped with a biblical worldview of sexuality and practical tools for talking it out. This study, which Slattery created with two women familiar with curriculum development, is ideal for college campuses and small groups. It will prompt discussions on practical topics like sexual temptation, sexual conduct, and responding to cultural thinking on gender issues and sexual autonomy. It is designed to challenge women to examine the assumptions underlying their sexual behaviors and beliefs. The ultimate goal of this resource is to introduce women to an intimate relationship with God who cares about every aspect of her life. |
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| overcoming religious sexual shame: #ChurchToo Emily Joy Allison, 2021 An examination of purity culture from the creator of the #ChurchToo movement. Sexual abuse is utterly rampant in Christian churches in America. And the reasons are somewhat different than those you might find in the #MeToo stories coming out of Hollywood or Washington. #ChurchToo turns over the rocks of the church's sexual dysfunction, revealing just what makes sexualized violence in religious contexts both ubiquitous and uniquely traumatizing, and lays the groundwork for survivors of abuse to live full, free, health lives.--Back cover. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: The Art of Sex Therapy Supervision James C. Wadley, Richard Siegel, 2018-08-06 *Winner of the 2019 AASECT Professional Book Award* The Art of Sex Therapy Supervision is a collection of scholarly writings and case narratives that sheds light on issues that sex therapists face as supervisors or supervisees and provides techniques that can be adapted to fit clients' specific needs. Written by experts in a range of fields, this book covers a wide range of perspectives and methodologies for assisting diverse populations, including conservative Christians, LGBTQ clients, and those who exhibit out-of-control sexual behavior. It addresses individual, relational, and systemic engagement in the context of sexual function/dysfunction, and it also discusses obstructions clinicians can face when providing critical feedback to clients. This book will be useful for aspiring supervisors as well as those who supervise clinicians seeking licensure or certification. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Washed and Waiting Wesley Hill, 2010-11-29 Yet many who sit next to us in the pew at church fit that description, says author Wesley Hill. As a celibate gay Christian, Hill gives us a glimpse of what it looks like to wrestle firsthand with God's ''No'' to same-sex relationships. What does it mean for gay Christians to live faithful to God while struggling with the challenge of their homosexuality? What is God's will for believers who experience same-sex desires? Those who choose celibacy are often left to deal with loneliness and the hunger for relationships. How can gay Christians experience God's favor and blessing in the midst of a struggle that for many brings a crippling sense of shame and guilt? Weaving together reflections from his own life and the lives of other Christians, such as Henri Nouwen and Gerard Manley Hopkins, Hill offers a fresh perspective on these questions. He advocates neither unqualified ''healing'' for those who struggle, nor their accommodation to temptation, but rather faithfulness in the midst of brokenness. ''I hope this book may encourage other homosexual Christians to take the risky step of opening up their lives to others in the body of Christ,'' Hill writes. ''In so doing, they may find, as I have, by grace, that being known is spiritually healthier than remaining behind closed doors, that the light is better than the darkness. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Bang!: Masturbation for People of All Genders and Abilities Vic Liu, 2023-10-24 ***Back the second edition of Bang! on Kickstarter and get limited edition stickers***Expanded second edition of this instant classic with a foreword by adrienne maree brownMasturbation is one of life's great pleasures. It helps build self-knowledge, foster body awareness, and expand your sexual repertoire, no partner required. Anyone can use masturbation to explore their relationship to their body, desires, and pleasure. This joyful, unique book centers people of color, queer people, disabled people, sex workers, and other often underrepresented voices to bring an informative and beautiful perspective to self-love. Inside, you'll find sections on:Masturbation myths shattered for good, with history and data analysisTechniques—physical and emotional—for finding solo pleasureA guide to buying sex toys and supporting feminist sex shopsTips by and for transgender masturbatorsLogistical advice and encouragement by and for wheelchair usersGuidance for teaching your kids healthy, safe attitudes about masturbationWisdom about giving pleasure to your aging bodyAdvice for working through internalized masturbation stigma and building a friendship with your genitaliaDiscover and share the joys of unpartnered sex with this beautifully designed, empathetic, practical, and fun guide. The second edition includes writing and illustrations by Vic Liu, Dirty Lola, Ev'Yan Whitney, Elle Stanger, Heather Corinna, Nina Chausow, Alex Tait, Clare Edgeman, Leah Holmes, Sam Dusing, Patrick Wiedeman, Rebecca Bedell, Lafayette Matthews, Andrew Gurza, and Angus Andrews, with a foreword by adrienne maree brown. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Under the Bed of Heaven Richard W. McCarty, 2021-12-01 Under the Bed of Heaven is a work of Christian ethics that examines how eschatology might reshape concepts of sexual morality. With the rise of institutional Christianity in the Roman Empire, Christian attitudes about sexual desire and activity were soon controlled by doctrines of virginity and celibacy, or, monogamous marriage for the sake of procreation. These moral theologies aligned with a certain track of Christian eschatology, which imagined the future resurrection of the body, but without any corresponding sexual desires. As a result, traditional Christianity developed a preference for celibacy on earth to match the loss of sexual desire and activity in heaven, making marriage and monogamy temporal goods only. In recent years, a few scholars of religion have challenged whether this vision of a sexless heaven is valid. However, they have not fully developed a vision of sex in heaven that might function to critique and reform Christian sexual ethics on earth. Richard W. McCarty explores scripture, church teachings, and different models of eschatology to offer a bold new conception of Christian sexual ethics that is inclusive of LGBTQ and heterosexual people, both in and outside of monogamous configurations. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Redeemed Sexuality Andrew A. Boa, 2017-12-12 Sexual brokenness permeates our culture and is often a source of fear, shame, or secret sin for emerging adults within the church. But as we experience love, joy, and intimacy with God and others, sexual shame and sin lose their power. Incorporating peer-to-peer leadership, this small group curriculum invites us to seek sexual maturity and discipleship in the context of community. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Removing Your Shame Label Eddie Capparucci, 2018-05-24 Tired of being trapped in unhealthy and destructive behaviors? Feeling stuck in moving on and getting the most out of your life? You may not realize it but you're probably dealing with deep-rooted shame that negatively impacts your relationship with others and God. In many cases, it is shame that prevents us from moving away from emotionally- troubling behaviors. In Removing Your Shame Label you will discover how to remove the shame label from your life by overcoming harmful behaviors such as: irrational thinking; the inability to emotionally connect; self-loathing; excessive worry; a hardened heart; and being stuck. Real case studies help provide insights and real-world solutions to assist you in managing behaviors that destroy relationships, limit personal growth, and cause shame. More importantly, this book opens a new pathway to help you establish a loving and meaningful relationship with God. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: The Pleasure Is All Yours Rachel Allyn, 2021-07-27 Reconnect to your inner sense of pleasure and joy through embodiment practices, which put you in touch with the natural wisdom of your body and enhance your ability to connect with others. In this time of increased fatigue, loneliness, and anxiety, disconnection from our bodies and from each other is at the core of our personal pain and our collective suffering. Women in particular are rewarded for, and expected to participate in self-denial. By weaving together historical and cultural commentary, humorous and poignant anecdotes, and experiential tools backed by science, The Pleasure Is All Yours is a step-by-step guide to help you release barriers to receiving life’s pleasures and deeper connections with others. In this timely guide, holistic psychologist, relationship and sex therapist, and yoga teacher Dr. Rachel Allyn introduces bodyfulness, an embodiment method she developed to help you to awaken into your body's own capacity for healing and deeper connection. Allyn explains how bodyfulness can connect you to four essential and overlooked types of pleasure—sensual, playful, lively, and erotic— which overlap in many ways, and helps you identify what can inspire your own pleasure in each category. Through bodyful activities such as breathing exercises, mindfulness, yoga, auditory release, and dynamic movements, this book helps you reunite with your inherent wisdom and soulful delight. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Holy Sex! Gregory K. Popcak, 2008 Holy Sex!' unveils Christianity's best-kept secret, and does so in an informative, solidly grounded, and delightful way. Want to know your Holy sex quotient? Ever wondered why Catholics have better sex more often? From a presentation of the church's actual teachings on sex to 'The infallible lover's guide to pleasure' to 'Natural family planning' to a Q & A secton on 'Overcoming common problems', this book truly empowers couples to take their relationship to the next level of fulfillment and soulful satisfaction--Back cover. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Shattering the Shackles of Shame Patricia L Hulsey, 2003-06-17 Multitudes around the globe are carrying heavy burdens of shame. Shame is an emotion that will keep you forever shackled to the past and prevent you from rising up to fulfill your God-given destiny. The purpose of this book is to shatter the shackles of shame that have bound you, your loved ones, or those to whom you minister. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Traumatized by Religious Abuse Connie a Baker, 2019-06-18 Shaking uncontrollably, nauseated, curled into a fetal position, waiting to hear my sentence from the elders of my church...For those who have experienced abuse at the hands of those who represent the divine, such a scene is all-too-familiar. But traumatic wounds suffered in a place that should represent safety, security, and comfort can be some of the most confusing wounds of all. Therapist Connie Baker knows better than most what it's like to suffer-and survive-religious abuse. With authenticity, openness, and careful consideration of many different faith traditions, she provides a path to hope and healing. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Healing Francis MacNutt, 1997 The million-copy bestselling introduction to the healing ministry, re-issued with a beautiful new cover. Does healing happen today? Why is there prejudice against the healing ministry? Why are some people not healed? These topical and vital questions are just some of the issues addressed by Francis MacNutt in Healing. A wideranging and broad-based overview, it is essential reading for all involved in the healing ministry. 'Prayer for healing is so central to the gospel, ' writes MacNutt, 'that it should be an integral part of the life of every community of believers. My heart cries out to see it restored to the place it had in the early Christian church. |
| overcoming religious sexual shame: Straight Jacket Matthew Todd, 2018 Written by Matthew Todd, editor of Attitude, the UK's best-selling gay magazine, Straight Jacket is a revolutionary clarion call for gay men, the wider LGBT community, their friends and family. Part memoir, part ground-breaking polemic, it looks beneath the shiny facade of contemporary gay culture and asks if gay people are as happy as they could be - and if not, why not? In an attempt to find the answers to this and many other difficult questions, Matthew Todd explores why statistics show a disproportionate number of gay people suffer from mental health problems, including anxiety, depression, addiction, suicidal thoughts and behaviour, and why significant numbers experience difficulty in sustaining meaningful relationships. |
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The meaning of OVERCOME is to get the better of : surmount. How to use overcome in a sentence. Synonym Discussion of Overcome.
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Synonyms for OVERCOMING: defeating, mastering, conquering, beating, taking, surmounting, getting, stopping; Antonyms of OVERCOMING: losing (to), falling, going down, giving up, failing, …
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Some common synonyms of overcome are conquer, defeat, overthrow, reduce, subdue, and vanquish. While all these words mean "to get the better of by force or strategy," overcome …
OVERCOMING | English meaning - Cambridge Dictionary
Overcoming issues of convenience and odor would make manure more competitive with commercial fertilizers. Thus, a lesson learnt was that moving to a procedural language gave the benefit of …
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To defeat (another) in competition or conflict: overcame the opposing team in the last quarter. 2. To deal with successfully; prevail over; surmount: tried to overcome the obstacles of poverty. 3. To …
overcome verb - Definition, pictures, pronunciation and usage …
overcome something to succeed in dealing with or controlling a problem that has been preventing you from achieving something. She overcame injury to win the Olympic gold medal. The two …
Overcome - Definition, Meaning & Synonyms - Vocabulary.com
Use the verb overcome when you talk about someone who has triumphed over adversity. It's great to see a friend who's always struggled in school overcome his learning disabilities and make the …
OVERCOME definition and meaning | Collins English Dictionary
Find a way to overcome your difficulties. [VERB noun] If you are overcome by a feeling or event, it is so strong or has such a strong effect that you cannot think clearly. A dizziness overcame him, …
