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| how to survive her affair: Surviving an Affair Willard F. Jr. Harley, Jennifer Harley Chalmers, 1998-11 A practical guide to coping with infidelity, explaining how affairs begin, how to end them, and how to restore the marriage afterwards. |
| how to survive her affair: The State of Affairs Esther Perel, 2017-10-10 A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.” |
| how to survive her affair: When Good People Have Affairs Mira Kirshenbaum, 2008-05-27 “A wise and welcome addition to the self-help literature on infidelity.” —Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., author of After the Affair A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who’s right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they’re in and what it means. Is it a: “See-if” affair? Ejector-seat affair? Distraction affair? Unmet-needs affair? Panic affair? Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: What am I missing in my marriage? How do I decide between two people when it’s like comparing an apple to an orange? How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair. “Kirshenbaum brings us practical steps for understanding affairs and utilizing the mistakes we make for a deeper healing.” —Rabbi Ted Falcon, Ph.D., rabbi of Bet Alef: An Inclusive Spiritual Synagogue in Seattle and co-author of Judaism for Dummies |
| how to survive her affair: Divorce Busting Michele Weiner-Davis, 1992 A marriage counseling guide teaches readers how to target their present marital problems and set attainable goals for the future with strategies that help break destructive behavior patterns |
| how to survive her affair: What Makes Love Last? John Gottman, John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver, 2012-09-04 One of the foremost relationship experts applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple and suggests a new approach to handle adultery. |
| how to survive her affair: Secrets to Surviving Infidelity Scott Haltzman, 2025-02-11 This second edition of Secrets to Surviving Infidelity offers a compassionate and practical roadmap toward recovery and reconnection. Through humane insights and step-by-step strategies, Dr. Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and marriage educator, shares how to overcome the pain of betrayal and strengthen relationships in its wake. He provides clear guidance on how to end an affair, how to cope with feelings of anger and grief, and how to foster forgiveness and healing. Secrets to Surviving Infidelity is a lifeline for those desperate to recover and safeguard their relationships-- |
| how to survive her affair: After the Affair Janis A. Spring, 1997-02-14 For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship –– written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity. When I was 15, I was raped. That was nothing compared to your affair. The rapist was a stranger; you, I thought, were my best friend. There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self–respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. After the Affair is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: Normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership. |
| how to survive her affair: NOT "Just Friends" Shirley Glass, 2007-11-01 One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage. |
| how to survive her affair: Affair Healing Tim Tedder, 2017-02-06 |
| how to survive her affair: My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me Anne Bercht, Brian Bercht, Danielle Bercht, 2004 A courageous and inspiring true story. The groundbreaking book on surviving infidelity and coming out stronger ... and more in love than ever, told by wife, husband and teenage daughter. |
| how to survive her affair: Cheating in a Nutshell Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell, 2019-09-09 Spoiler Alert: This book is not for cheaters. Cheating in a Nutshell is for people who were cheated on in a romantic relationship. The reaction to being cheated on is universal. In this book Wayne & Tamara Mitchell give the longer explanation each victim deserves. |
| how to survive her affair: Getting Past the Affair Douglas K. Snyder, Donald H. Baucom, Kristina Coop Gordon, 2007-01-06 This book has been replaced by Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition, ISBN 978-1-4625-4748-7. |
| how to survive her affair: Marriage Undercover Bob Meisner, Audrey Meisner, Stephen W. Nance, 2004 This is a true story that every husband and wife should read. Bob and Audrey Meisner had it all: a fruitful ministry, three beautiful children, a picture-perfect marriage. Their future seemed secure and their prospects bright-- until adultery threatened to bring it all crashing down. Faced with the greatest personal crisis of their lives, Bob and Audrey found hope and rescue through godly counsel an through learning the biblical principle of covering to protect their marriage and their family. |
| how to survive her affair: Surviving My Husband's Affair Meredith D Strickland, 2021-01-12 She was going to have to face me. This was not cheating; this was an affair. I arrived at her house-then I saw the red and blue lights flashing behind me. In 2009, Meredith Strickland's life comes crashing down when she discovers her husband Jonathan's affair during her pregnancy with their third child. Their church scrambles to advise them, along with Liz (the other woman) and her husband, who are all members. Unfortunately, the church focuses on the consequences of the adultery on Meredith's family. When Liz continues to try to steal Meredith's life in other ways, it becomes more than she can handle. Trying to balance faith, forgiveness, and love with anger, panic, and grief, Meredith searches for a path that will help her survive. That path takes her through tangled relationships and human failure that seem impossible to overcome.In the introduction to this true story, Meredith says to think long and hard before deciding what to do. In the game of life, your husband has dealt you the divorce card by having an affair, she writes. It's up to you how, or if, you play that card. This honest, vulnerable account of a wife's worst nightmare will have you wishing you could hold Meredith's hand as she struggles to find her voice-and a way to rebuild her life. |
| how to survive her affair: Secrets to Surviving Infidelity Scott Haltzman, 2025-02-11 Now completely updated! A compassionate guide to help couples survive infidelity and improve their relationship. When a couple's trust is shattered by infidelity, healing may seem beyond reach—but it doesn't have to be. This second edition of Secrets to Surviving Infidelity offers a compassionate and practical roadmap toward recovery and reconnection. Through humane insights and step-by-step strategies, Dr. Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and marriage educator, shares how to overcome the pain of betrayal and strengthen relationships in its wake. Whether you are the wronged partner, the one who strayed, or a therapist navigating your clients' infidelity, this book serves as an essential guide to the intricacies of infidelity—from the initial shock and heartache to the complex process of rebuilding trust. This second edition includes new information on: • The evolving definitions of marriage and commitment, with updated language to include those who are in unmarried, committed relationships. • Relationship challenges unique to the LGBTQ+ community • Gender and sex issues • The neuroscience of infidelity and flame addiction • Strategies for conflict management Dr. Haltzman combines real-life stories with robust research to illuminate the types of infidelity, the varied motivations behind affairs, and their impacts on relationships. He provides clear guidance on how to end an affair, how to cope with feelings of anger and grief, and how to foster forgiveness and healing. This book can also serve as a preventive tool to explore and strengthen bonds to make relationships affair-resistant. Secrets to Surviving Infidelity is a lifeline for those desperate to recover and safeguard their relationships. |
| how to survive her affair: Unfaithful Gary Shriver, Mona Shriver, 2009-11-01 Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand. |
| how to survive her affair: How Can I Forgive You? Janis A. Spring, 2009-10-13 “If you are struggling with issues of betrayal—or the challenge of whether and how to forgive—here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.”—Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger Everyone is struggling to forgive someone: an unfaithful partner, an alcoholic parent, an ungrateful child, a terrorist. This award-winning book provides a radical way for hurt parties to heal themselves—without forgiving, as well as a way for offenders to earn genuine forgiveness. Until now, we’ve been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring, a gifted clinical psychologist and award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for earning genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party. Beautifully written and filled with insight, practical advice, and poignant case studies, this bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these: How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead? When is forgiveness cheap? Can I heal myself – without forgiving? How can the offender earn forgiveness? What makes for a good apology? How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being? |
| how to survive her affair: Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken Cindy Beall, 2021-10-19 Resurrect beauty from the ashes of betrayal Wife and mother Cindy Beall’s world was shattered when her beloved husband of nine years confessed his pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the stunning news that another woman was pregnant with his child. What could have been the end of a marriage instead became a testament to God’s miraculous ability to restore broken hearts and damaged bonds. With the wisdom and healing she’s gained in the twenty years that have passed since her husband’s devastating revelation, Cindy shares her own experience as well as those of couples she’s counselled. Drawing from her intimate knowledge of human pain and God’s power, Cindy shows how you can… seek support, counseling, and prayer after deception has surfaced rebuild trust that’s been eroded by infidelity, addiction, or other transgressions help your family heal from grief and reconcile with any long-term consequences rely on God to pursue forgiveness and move forward in new promises Cindy’s remarkable story, compassion, and grasp of God’s Word will help you trust God with your heartache as you seek His hope and redemption. |
| how to survive her affair: Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life Tracy Schorn, 2016-05-10 Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity -- but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters -- their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead. |
| how to survive her affair: The Little Prince Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, 2024-11-08 Beschreibung I ask the indulgence of the children who may read this book for dedicating it to a grown-up. I have a serious reason: he is the best friend I have in the world. I have another reason: this grown-up understands everything, even books about children. I have a third reason: he lives in France where he is hungry and cold. He needs cheering up. If all these reasons are not enough, I will dedicate the book to the child from whom this grown-up grew. All grown-ups were once children-- although few of them remember it. And so I correct my dedication: To Leon Werth when he was a little boy Once when I was six years old I saw a magnificent picture in a book, called True Stories from Nature, about the primeval forest. It was a picture of a boa constrictor in the act of swallowing an animal. Here is a copy of the drawing. In the book it said: Boa constrictors swallow their prey whole, without chewing it. After that they are not able to move, and they sleep through the six months that they need for digestion. |
| how to survive her affair: The Essential Guide to Surviving Infidelity Liz Currin, Ph.D., 2012-01-03 A thoughtfully written and sensitive guide for anyone dealing with the devastating effects of an affair. For anyone who has been impacted by an affair, the effects can be nothing short of devastating. Licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Liz Currin has years of experience helping couples resolve and repair the damage wrought by the effects of an affair. Through Dr Currin's thoughtful style, readers of The Essential Guide to Surviving Infidelity will learn how affairs start, what to do if a partner is suspected of cheating, how to deal with the emotional impact of an affair, and many other essential steps in the healing process. In addition, Dr. Currin provides clears guideposts to healing a marriage (as well as oneself), moving on, engaging the power of forgiveness, and restoring trust. |
| how to survive her affair: The Empowered Wife, Updated and Expanded Edition Laura Doyle, 2017-03-28 Can a wife single-handedly bring a boring or broken marriage back to life? This improved and expanded edition of Laura Doyle's acclaimed First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors features real-life success stories from empowered wives who have done just that—and provides a step-by-step guide to revitalizing your own marriage. Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble, and couples counseling wasn't helping. On the brink of divorce, she decided to talk to women who'd been happily married for over a decade, and their advice stunned her. From it, she distilled Six Intimacy Skills—woman-centric practices that ended her overwhelm and resentment, restoring the playfulness and passion in her marriage. Now an internationally-recognized relationship coach, Doyle has shared her secrets with women around the globe, saving thousands of marriages with her fresh, revolutionary approach. Practical and counter-intuitive, the Six Intimacy Skills are about focusing on your own desires and transforming your own life—not bending over backwards to transform your husband. Incorporating these skills will empower you to: Attract his attention like a magnet when you relax more and do less Receive affection not because you told him to make more of an effort, but because he naturally seeks you out Feel more like yourself—and like yourself more If you've been trying to fix your relationship and it's not working, maybe the problem was never you, or your husband, or even the two of you as a couple. Maybe the problem is that nobody ever taught you the skills you need to foster respect, tenderness, and consideration. With humor and heart, The Empowered Wife shows you how to improve your relationship in ways you hadn't thought possible. You'll join a worldwide community of over 150,000 empowered wives who finally have the marriages they dreamed of when they said I do. |
| how to survive her affair: Healing from Infidelity Michele Weiner-Davis, 2017 Little compares to the devastation people feel upon discovering their spouse has been unfaithful. Shocked, devastated and overwhelmed, couples often hit stalemates as they struggle to get past intense emotional pain, mistrust, resentment and never-ending arguments about the betrayal. Based on over three decades of experience helping couples recover from betrayal and save their marriages, Weiner-Davis offers a step-by-step program to help readers: - Deal with traumatic feelings after the discovery - Respond to questions about the affair - Talk about intense emotions without arguing - End the affair - Offer apologies that are sincere and healing - Overcome flashbacks and painful memories - Rebuild trust and accountability - Make their marriage stronger than before the affair - Find forgiveness - Reconnect sexually This book is filled with case vignettes of couples whose lives were shattered by betrayal but have eventually recovered and thrived.--Publisher's description. |
| how to survive her affair: Does Divorce Make People Happy? Linda J. Waite, 2002 Does divorce typically make adults happier than staying in an unhappy marriage? Many Americans assume so. This study represents, to the best of our knowledge, the first serious effort to investigate this assumption empirically: Two out of three unhappily married adults who avoided divorce reported being happily married five years later. |
| how to survive her affair: Love Busters Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2016-10-04 A Classic Resource from Dr. Harley--Now Revised and Repackaged to Highlight Six Changes in Habits That Will Save Your Marriage According to relationship expert and bestselling author Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., after couples get married, they often develop habits that slowly undermine the love they have for each other. If tolerated, these Love Busters--selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and independent behavior--will destroy a couple's love for each other. The solution, however, isn't merely to avoid these negative behaviors and attitudes. Rather, it's to cultivate Love Builders--positive habits that will strengthen the relationship. With Dr. Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid the major causes of marital unhappiness and disappointment. Instead of tearing their marriage apart, they will learn to build it into the marriage they had needed and wanted. This book is a perfect companion to His Needs, Her Needs and will be useful to pastors, counselors, and couples. |
| how to survive her affair: After the Affair, Updated Second Edition Janis A. Spring, 2013-01-22 “Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.” —Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger “It is ‘must’ reading for any couple who has experienced the violation of trust as a result of an affair.” —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. A staggering number of couples in America—about 70 percent—have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriage—and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology—this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading. |
| how to survive her affair: His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2022-02-08 OVER 2 MILLION COPIES SOLD Make your marriage sizzle! Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the best marriage book available. More than any other, this book helps husbands and wives give each other what they need most in marriage. This revised and updated edition of the classic bestseller will help you ● understand the ten most vital needs of men and women ● learn how to identify and satisfy those needs in your spouse ● become irresistible to your spouse ● love more creatively and sensitively Millions of couples have learned to keep the romance alive by reading His Needs, Her Needs. Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their marriage by following Dr. Harley's tried and proven counsel, with emphasis on building romantic love and extraordinary care for each other. You will discover that an outstanding marriage can be more than a dream--it can be your reality. |
| how to survive her affair: An Affair of Poisons Addie Thorley, 2019-02-26 No one looks kindly on the killer of a king. “Fast-paced and refreshing.” – SLJ, starred review “The perfect blend of history and dark fantasy.” – Mary Taranta, author of Shimmer and Burn “Thrilling, romantic, and addictive.” – Rosalyn Eves, author of Blood Rose Rebellion “The only cure is to finish it.” – Lyndsay Ely, author of Gunslinger Girl After unwittingly helping her mother poison King Louis XIV, seventeen-year-old alchemist Mirabelle Monvoisin is forced to see her mother’s Shadow Society in a horrifying new light: they’re not heroes of the people, as they’ve always claimed to be, but murderers. Herself included. Mira tries to ease her guilt by brewing helpful curatives, but her hunger tonics and headache remedies cannot right past wrongs or save the dissenters her mother vows to purge. Royal bastard Josse de Bourbon is more kitchen boy than fils de France. But when the Shadow Society assassinates the Sun King and half of the royal court, he must become the prince he was never meant to be in order to save his injured sisters and the petulant dauphin. Forced to hide in the sewers beneath the city, Josse’s hope of reclaiming Paris seems impossible—until his path collides with Mirabelle’s. She’s a deadly poisoner. He’s a bastard prince. They are sworn enemies, yet they form a tenuous pact to unite the commoners and former nobility against the Shadow Society. But can a rebellion built on mistrust ever hope to succeed? |
| how to survive her affair: How to Live with an Imperfect Person Louis H. Janda, 2000 |
| how to survive her affair: SURVIVING HER DOMINANT T E Kessler, Life in the 21st century is tough due to the conflict between Jelvias and Humans. But Courtney, once consumed in a violent relationship, thought that was the least of her problems. But she escaped Greg and moved in with her best friend, Macy, telling her only the bare minimum of what happened. Macy has also been hiding a secret and hasn’t told Courtney how embroiled she is in the Jelvain culture. And although worried about her friend, she’s more worried about herself when Jelvian boss, Aldarn, takes an interest in her. She’s had enough of dangerous men. Courtney escapes by returning to her childhood home in Sleepy Name to be with her mum. But unbeknown to Courtney, two men followed her to Cornwall. Greg. Aldarn. They say that out of fear, the abused may settle for someone “safe” or who isn’t right. Courtney is going to make the biggest mistake of her life. |
| how to survive her affair: Magnetic Partners Stephen Betchen, 2010-05-18 Do you and your partner argue about the same things over and over again? Are you often confused about why your partner is so angry with you? Are things getting worse and worse even though you’ve tried everything you can think of to make them better? In this breakthrough guide to repairing romantic relationships, therapist and marriage researcher Dr. Stephen Betchen presents a powerful new explanation of what leads to this kind of escalating conflict in couples and how you can repair your relationship and find a whole new level of happiness. Based on his extensive experience as a couples’ therapist, Dr. Betchen has discovered that the prevailing idea that opposites attract is wrong. Instead, one of the strongest forces that attracts people to one another is that they share a hidden, inner conflict in their lives—an unconscious struggle within themselves that each of them developed growing up—which he calls a master conflict. The fact that a couple shares a master conflict acts as an almost magnetic force of attraction, but, over time, master conflicts often begin to push a pair apart—many of the very things you most appreciated about each other start to grate on you, producing increasing hostility. The good news is that by identifying the master conflict that you share, you and your partner can take the steps to break the cycle of fighting and come to a new place of understanding and happiness in your relationship. Often, just the realization that you have this hidden conflict acts as a powerful cure, allowing you to appreciate each other once again and to be empathetic about the things that have been irritating you both. From his years of work with couples, Betchen has identified the nineteen most common master conflicts—such as getting your needs met vs. caretaking; giving vs. withholding; commitment vs. freedom; power vs. passivity—and for each he provides vivid stories of couples who have struggled with them, as well as simple tests that help you to: • Identify the core master conflict that is causing your relationship problems • Understand the origins of your conflict and how it drew you to your partner • Diagnose how the conflict is now pushing you apart • Come to new terms with the conflict to save your relationship As Dr. Betchen writes, knowledge of a master conflict is power, and Magnetic Partners is an empowering guide that will help you not only to identify and control your master conflict, but also to bring your relationship to a new level based on deeper understanding, ultimately leading to greater fulfillment and long-term resilience. Partners |
| how to survive her affair: Beach Read Emily Henry, 2024-10-01 Emily Henry’s beloved New York Times bestselling novel now in this stunning hardcover collector’s edition featuring: • A shimmering revamped cover • Sunset sky art endpapers and sprayed edges • Gold foil stamped case, and... • A new introduction from the author and a bonus January and Gus epilogue, “The Layover” A romance writer who no longer believes in love and a literary writer stuck in a rut engage in a summer-long challenge that may just upend everything they believe about happily ever afters. Augustus Everett is an acclaimed author of literary fiction. January Andrews writes bestselling romance. When she pens a Happily Ever After, he kills off his entire cast. They’re polar opposites. In fact, the only thing they have in common is that for the next three months they’re living in neighboring beach houses, broke and bogged down with writer’s block. Then one hazy evening, one thing leads to another and they strike a deal designed to force them out of their creative ruts: Augustus will spend the summer writing something happy, and January will pen the next Great American Novel. She’ll take him on field trips worthy of any rom-com montage, and he’ll take her to interview surviving members of a backwoods death cult (obviously). Everyone will finish a book and no one will fall in love. Really. “A tender, thoughtful, and very funny book…it’s not only convincing but infectious.”—The New York Times Book Review |
| how to survive her affair: How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair Linda J. MacDonald, 2010-11-24 As an infidelity specialist for 25 years, therapist Linda J. MacDonald has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after an affair. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance. Learn what Successful Rebuilders know:* How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs* Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery * 15 essential steps for repair after betrayal* Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and triggers* Ways to undo the damage from your lies * The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours)* The difference between helpful and harmful apologies* How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity BACK OF THE BOOKMost unfaithful partners underestimate the breadth and depth of the fallout after infidelity. If you have had an affair but have regrets and hope to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading this book! Or, if you are the injured spouse and your unfaithful partner keeps hurting you with his/her attempts to help you feel better in all the wrong ways, put this manual into your spouse's hands right away.Find out for yourself what the difference is between those who blow up their marriages in the aftermath of affairs and those who successfully manage to repair and rebuild their marriages into better-than-ever relationships. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair provides a practical road map for unfaithful spouses who wish to have another chance with their partners. Easy to read, even for the self-help book phobic! Your material in How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair is ab¬solutely excellent. I have counseled for twenty-five years and found it well-done, balanced, and accurate. -Jim Velez M.S., M.A., L.P.C., Portland, Oregon |
| how to survive her affair: Real Love in Marriage Greg Baer, 2007-09-20 “With marriage down and divorce up, it’s tough to get and stay married these days. But therapist Greg Baer says you can have a happy marriage by learning to love your partner unconditionally. . .practicing Real Love.”—Chicago Tribune Why do more than half of all marriages end in divorce? And why is there so much unhappiness in the marriages that survive? Greg Baer offers the solutions for a long-lasting marriage in his anticipated follow-up to Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships. No matter how many wounds have been inflicted in a marriage, Greg Baer believes that they can be healed, giving both partners the sense of fulfillment and joy they’ve always wanted. With practical anecdotes and exercises throughout, Baer shows you: · Why our spouses are not the root cause of how we feel and behave · The truth about why we get angry with our spouses and argue with them · How to eliminate—not just manage—anger and conflict · How to identify what we need to change about ourselves · How you and your partner can both get what you want out of the marriage · How you can break the cycles of expectation and disappointment · How to prevent divorce, and how to know when it’s the right option There are no quick solutions to fixing a marriage. With Greg Baer as your guide, you can begin to heal the wounds of the past and cultivate the lifelong commitment to stay with your partner while learning how to unconditionally love him or her. |
| how to survive her affair: Should I Stay Or Go? Lee Raffel, 1999 Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). CS is a compassionate process that is designed to build respect and foster advocacy between spouses. The book explains the CS guidelines, including the 12 fundamental issues that must be resolved for a workable, orderly separation. It also contains sample contracts, along with helpful checklists and self-assessment tools. |
| how to survive her affair: Risky Business Cary L. Cooper, 2016-04-15 What are the financial and psychological costs of risky behavior in business to the individuals concerned and their organizations? Risky Business provides a perspective on addictive behaviors such as gambling, drug taking and even addiction to work; criminal behaviors such as theft and corruption; and behaviors such as aggression and violence. The authors then look at their implications to employee and organizational health within the context of the workplace environment; an environment that is often synonymous with psychological demands, stress, long hours, overwork and shortages of staff or other essential resources. An essential guide for occupational psychologists, human resource specialists, risk managers and for researchers in this field. |
| how to survive her affair: His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr., 2020-03-03 Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the bestselling marriage book available. In this classic book, Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the 10 most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to make their marriage sizzle by satisfying those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to conflict and even extramarital affairs. Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their marriages by following Dr. Harley's tried and proven counsel. You will discover that an outstanding marriage can be more than a dream--it can be your reality. |
| how to survive her affair: Improving Your Relationship For Dummies Paula Hall, 2010-01-07 This is the guide to being happy with your partner. Whether you want to work through tiresome niggles, iron out potential issues before taking the next step, or simply fortify your partnership against the daily ups and downs, this relationship manual provides all the expert advice and support you need. Packed with key information on managing change, successful cohabitation, overcoming jealousy, and igniting passion, and including worksheets designed to get you and your partner thinking and working together, this is your passport to a loving, communicative relationship that's set to last. |
| how to survive her affair: Marriage and the Love Myth Sukhjiwan Singh, 2021-04-01 Singh examines the subject of marriage and proves that making a successful marriage is a conscious choice. She covers the topics of finding a like-minded partner and implementing a code of behavior at the outset. Then she delves into the tools necessary to meet challenges head-on and getting back on track. |
| how to survive her affair: How To Live With The Difficult Man You Love Nancy Good, 1995-11-15 In this follow-up to the popular How to Love a Difficult Man, the author advises readers that they don't have to live with his difficult behavior or leave him. With this book, readers learn how to overcome obstacles to the intimacy you've always dreamed of with these step-by-step guidelines. |
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