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| coping with your difficult older parent: Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent Grace Lebow, Barbara Kane, Irwin Lebow, 2011-08-02 Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for difficult parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Taking Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You Eleanor Cade, 2009-08-19 A self-help guide for those who have to take care of their aging parents. Caring for aging parents is difficult-it's exhausting, expensive, time-consuming, and under appreciated. And that's under the best of circumstances, when the caregiver loves and respects his or her aging parent. What happens when adult children are asked to care for elderly parents who were abusive, neglectful, or absent? Here is a compassionate and practical guide to facing the psychological and emotional issues that arise when caring for aging parents. Eleanor Cade offers sound as well as personal accounts from individuals who have made the choice to care for difficult parents. The result is a powerful guide to moving beyond feelings of anger, regret, and grief in order to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency and mercy.Target audience For individuals who are caring for aging, dysfunctional parents, as well as counselors and therapists who work with familiesFeaturesan authoritative resource for baby boomers caring for aging parentsdefines differences between normal and dysfunctional familiespersonal stories validate the experiences and feelings of readers |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Doing the Right Thing Roberta Satow, Ph.D., 2006-03-16 Now in paperback, one of the first books to help navigate the profound emotional challenges of caring for elderly parents in a strained parent-child relationship. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Children of the Aging Self-Absorbed Nina W Brown, 2015-09-01 Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: When Your Aging Parent Needs Help Leslie Kernisan, MD, 2021-02-11 It's scary and stressful when it happens ... noticing changes in your parent and becoming increasingly worried about their health and safety. Maybe it's Mom leaving the stove on, Dad getting lost on his way home, or unpaid bills that trigger this realization. Or perhaps there have been falls or emergency room visits. Whatever it is, you know something's wrong. You wonder about a diagnosis. And you want your aging parent to accept help, or perhaps move. Helping an older parent can be gratifying. But it's especially hard if they're blowing off your concerns, refusing to make changes, or otherwise resisting your efforts. You want them to listen, but they get upset or withdraw when you try to talk about this. What to do? You don't have to remain stuck in conflict with your parent (or other family members). You don't have to keep getting the runaround from doctors or feel stumped about next steps. Instead, use an expert's clear plan on how to help your aging parent. In this practical, step-by-step guide, geriatrician Leslie Kernisan, MD, walks you through what to do and what to say in order to offer respectful assistance and intervention to a declining elderly parent. Full of actionable advice and insider tips, When Your Aging Parent Needs Help provides practical and flexible steps that move concerned families toward effective elder care action, while respecting a parent's dignity and autonomy. You'll discover: How to communicate with your aging parent to reduce conflicts and enhance cooperation The A-B-C-D-E assessment framework for Alzheimer or other dementia concerns, safety issues, or independent living - and steps to implement change Strategies to overcome parental resistance, health provider reluctance to share information, and family disagreement How to get a medical evaluation for memory loss and, if applicable, a diagnosis for Alzheimer's or another dementia What to know about possible mental incompetence, powers of attorney, HIPAA, and other options for gaining legal authority as a caregiver How to find geriatric care managers and other eldercare professionals to assist Downloadable worksheets, symptom checkers, and checklists to bring to doctor visits What this looks like family stories that show you what these action steps look like in real-world situations Transform good intentions into workable solutions and improved relationships. If you're concerned about an aging parent's health, wellbeing, or safety, you'll find encouragement and direction for this next life stage in When Your Aging Parent Needs Help. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: How to Say It® to Seniors David Solie, 2004-09-07 A practical guide to bridging the generation gap. In How to Say It to Seniors, geriatric psychology expert David Solie offers help in removing the typical communication blocks many experience with the elderly. By sharing his insights into the later stages of life, Solie helps in understanding the unique perspective of seniors, and provides the tools to relate to them. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Elder Rage Jacqueline Marcell, 2001 Elder Rage, or Take My Father... Please: How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents--is a riveting true story as well as an extensive self-help book, with solutions for effective management, medically and behaviorally, of challenging elders who resist care. Jacqueline Marcell's poignant and often-humorous story of caring for her challenging elderly father and sweet but frail mother, addresses issues like how to get an obstinate elder to: give up driving, accept a caregiver, see a different doctor, take medication, go to adult day care, move to a new residence, etc. Includes: Behavior Modification Guidelines, 25 Q&A's=How Do I Handle My Elderly Loved One Who...?, Long-Term Care Insurance, Ten Warning Signs of Alzheimer's, How is Alzheimer's Diagnosed, Three Stages of Alzheimer's, Startling Statistics, Other Diseases That Act Like Alzheimer's, Jacqueline's Top Ten Recommendations, Hope For The Future, The Search for the Cure, Valuable Resources, Recommended Reading. Internationally known dementia specialist, Rodman Shankle, MS MD, contributes the Addendum: A Physician's Guide to Treating Dementia. Over 50 endorsements include: Hugh Downs, Regis Philbin, Dr. Dean Edell, Duke University Center for Aging, Dr. Nancy Snyderman/ABC News, Leeza Gibbons, Senator John D. Rockefeller IV, Rudy Tanzi/Harvard Medical School, and The Johns Hopkins Memory Clinic. http://www.elderrage.com |
| coping with your difficult older parent: A Bittersweet Season Jane Gross, 2012-05-01 Wise, smart, and ever-helpful, an essential guide to caring for aging parents. When Jane Gross found herself suddenly thrust into a caretaker role for her eighty-five year-old mother, she was forced to face challenges that she had never imagined. As she and her younger brother struggled to move her mother into an assisted living facility, deal with seemingly never-ending costs, and adapt to the demands on her time and psyche, she learned valuable and important lessons. Here, the longtime New York Times expert on the subject of elderly care and the founder of the New Old Age blog shares her frustrating, heartbreaking, enlightening, and ultimately redemptive journey, providing us along the way with valuable information that she wishes she had known earlier. We learn why finding a general practitioner with a specialty in geriatrics should be your first move when relocating a parent; how to deal with Medicaid and Medicare; how to understand and provide for your own needs as a caretaker; and much more. Includes chapters on the following subjects: Finding Our Better Selves The Myth of Assisted Living The Vestiges of Family Medicine The Best Doctors Money Can Buy The Biology, Sociology, and Psychology of Aging Therapeutic Fibs |
| coping with your difficult older parent: How to Care for Aging Parents Virginia Morris, 1996-01-01 Focusing on emotional, medical, financial, and legal issues, a health-care journalist who cared for her own father through a terminal illness turns a tough subject into a smart, compassionate, timely book for every person with aging parents. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents Cheryl A. Kuba, 2013-05-13 Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents proposes an entirely unique approach to the field of gerontology, giving dependent care receivers a voice. Caregivers will be made aware of what care receivers truly want during life's final chapters. Exploring issues of housing, spirituality, personal care and death, Cheryl Kuba has created a testament to the dependent elderly. This book draws on numerous interviews with aging people and discusses common caregiver mistakes and interpretations, what a caregiver should expect when an aging parent moves in, and how to care for an aging parent from afar. Kuba also delves into such phenomena as guilt, role reversal, changing family dynamics, financial stress, and caring for oneself while caring for another. The 22.4 million elderly people being cared for in the United States comprises the fastest growing segment of the population, making this reference on the opinions and concerns of care receivers invaluable. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Lindsay C. Gibson, 2015-06-01 A New York Times bestseller—with more than one million copies sold! If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory |
| coping with your difficult older parent: The Caregiving Season Jane Daly, 2016 Caring for elderly parents is challenging. It's a season of life that requires grace and strength that can only come from God. In The Caregiving Season, Jane Daly shares personal caregiving stories, offering practical advice to help you honor your aging parents well and deepen your personal relationship with Christ along the journey. --Amazon.com. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Families Caring for an Aging America National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, Health and Medicine Division, Board on Health Care Services, Committee on Family Caregiving for Older Adults, 2016-12-08 Family caregiving affects millions of Americans every day, in all walks of life. At least 17.7 million individuals in the United States are caregivers of an older adult with a health or functional limitation. The nation's family caregivers provide the lion's share of long-term care for our older adult population. They are also central to older adults' access to and receipt of health care and community-based social services. Yet the need to recognize and support caregivers is among the least appreciated challenges facing the aging U.S. population. Families Caring for an Aging America examines the prevalence and nature of family caregiving of older adults and the available evidence on the effectiveness of programs, supports, and other interventions designed to support family caregivers. This report also assesses and recommends policies to address the needs of family caregivers and to minimize the barriers that they encounter in trying to meet the needs of older adults. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Caring for Your Aging Parents Barbara Deane, 1989 If you provide care for your elderly parents, this book will give you the helpful information you need. Includes resource lists. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Parenting Your Parents Dr. Grant Ethridge, Tammy Ethridge, 2019-09-03 Help and Hope for the Hard Road Ahead If you are currently providing care for your aging parents or facing the prospect of doing so in the near future, you are definitely not alone. Dr. Grant Ethridge and his wife, Tammy, have been there, having given care during their dads’ last days. They know the stress and uncertainty you face. Through their story and those of other caregivers, Grant and Tammy share research and practical tips to aid you in dealing with everyday caregiving struggles and situations. You will learn how to decide which care is best, prepare legal documents, handle family disputes, and much more. They will also share encouragement and advice from the Bible. You’ll discover that with God’s help, you can make it through even the most difficult days in your journey. Looking after an elderly or sick parent is a physically and emotionally draining experience. Let this book give you the tools you need to be successful without giving away your peace of mind in the process. And remember, as you give care to your parents, your Heavenly Father is always caring for you. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: The Complete Family Guide to Dementia Thomas F. Harrison, Brent P. Forester, 2022-08-10 If you are facing the unique challenges of caring for a parent with dementia, you are not alone. What do you do when your loved one so plainly needs assistance, but is confused, angry, or resistant to your help? Where can you find the vital information you need, when you need it? Journalist Thomas Harrison and leading geriatric psychiatrist Brent Forester show that you don’t have to be a medical expert to be a good care provider in this authoritative guide. They explain the basics of dementia and offer effective strategies for coping with the medical, emotional, and financial toll. With the right skills, you can navigate changing family roles, communicate better with your parent, keep him or her safe, and manage difficult behaviors. Learn how to care smarter, not harder--and help your loved one maintain the best possible quality of life. Winner (Second Place)--American Journal of Nursing Book of the Year Award, Consumer Health Category Winner (Third Place)--Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Award, Family & Relationships Category |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Working Daughter Liz O'Donnell, 2019-07-31 Working Daughter provides a roadmap for women trying to navigate caring for aging parents and their careers. Using the author’s own experiences as a prime example, it’s ideal for readers who want straight talk and real advice about the challenges and rewards of eldercare while managing a career and family. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Children of the Self-Absorbed Nina Brown, 2008-04-01 Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Cruising through Caregiving Jennifer L. FitzPatrick, 2016-09-27 Caregiving is no vacation, but you can cruise more smoothly through it! If you’re facing the daunting reality that you’re about to become a caregiver—whether you planned for it or not—Cruising through Caregiving is the down-to-earth and authoritative answer you need. Jennifer FitzPatrick has been through nearly every possible scenario on the caregiving spectrum, both professionally and personally, and she expertly shows you how to be a responsible, loving caregiver without being overcome by guilt, exhaustion, or worry. It doesn’t matter whether you have advantages such as money or an extended family. You don’t have to passively just let things happen. No matter your particular situation, FitzPatrick has a practical and thoughtful solution to deal with it. She’ll help you discover and harness powers you don’t even know you have—from getting other family members to participate in caregiving to navigating a loved one’s finances, living setting, or declining physical and mental health conditions. Advice and resources from FitzPatrick and twenty-four other professionals show how to give your loved one the best quality of life possible without sacrificing your own life, health, career, relationships, or financial stability. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart Joel Young, Christine Adamec, 2013-12-03 Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, Oh no! followed by, How can I help to fix this? A very common third reaction is the thought, Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault? These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to saving their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post I Am Adam Lanza's Mother, America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: How to Have Fun with Your Aging Parents Christina Britton Conroy, 2017-05 A step-by-step manual for adults who love and care for older adults One afternoon, music therapist Christina Britton Conroy was taking nursing home residents to activities. She was thrilled when a sweet, disoriented lady joined her group. Mary, it's so good to see you. Do you want to go to the Bible study or BINGO? she asked. Mary replied, I want to go to Lithuania. An insightful, unique approach to helping people cope with the demands of dealing with the elderly. The writing is entertaining and insightful. -- John J. Daly, M.D., NYC Police Surgeon, St. Vincent's Hospital, NYC ... social workers, nursing-home and community center staffers, psychologists, and family members of patients with dementia/Alzheimer's could all benefit from this information. -- Judy Foust, RN, US Army Hospital, retired, Low Vision Nursing Specialist, Lighthouse NYC ... a great resource for caregivers, whether they are children of aging parents or professionals working in a health care settings. Conroy puts a new spin on the different ways to manage the elderly population. This book is a great reference and a great read. --Donna Malech, R. N., P. H. N., Visiting Nurse Service, NYC A must in any caregiver's library. --Marie Sibilla, Psychotherapist, Private Practice, NYC To all adult children, caretakers, professionals read this book! Conroy's approach aligns with the newest movement in American psychology called 'Positive Psychology'--focusing on one's passions and personal strengths. --Gerald Solk, Ph.D. Assist. Prof. Psychology, City University of NY Staff Psychologist, Gracie Square Hospital |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Dealing with Difficult Parents Todd Whitaker, Douglas Fiore, 2013-08-16 This book helps teachers, principals, superintendents, and all educators develop a repertoire of tools and skills for comfortable and effective interaction with parents. It shows you how to deal with the parent who is bossy, volatile, argumentative, aggressive, or maybe the worst - apathetic. It provides specific phrases to use with parents to help you avoid using trigger words which unintentionally make matters worse. It will show you how to deliver bad news to good parents, how to build positive credibility to all types of parents, and how to foster the kind of parent involvement which leads to student success. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Parenting Matters National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, Division of Behavioral and Social Sciences and Education, Board on Children, Youth, and Families, Committee on Supporting the Parents of Young Children, 2016-11-21 Decades of research have demonstrated that the parent-child dyad and the environment of the familyâ€which includes all primary caregiversâ€are at the foundation of children's well- being and healthy development. From birth, children are learning and rely on parents and the other caregivers in their lives to protect and care for them. The impact of parents may never be greater than during the earliest years of life, when a child's brain is rapidly developing and when nearly all of her or his experiences are created and shaped by parents and the family environment. Parents help children build and refine their knowledge and skills, charting a trajectory for their health and well-being during childhood and beyond. The experience of parenting also impacts parents themselves. For instance, parenting can enrich and give focus to parents' lives; generate stress or calm; and create any number of emotions, including feelings of happiness, sadness, fulfillment, and anger. Parenting of young children today takes place in the context of significant ongoing developments. These include: a rapidly growing body of science on early childhood, increases in funding for programs and services for families, changing demographics of the U.S. population, and greater diversity of family structure. Additionally, parenting is increasingly being shaped by technology and increased access to information about parenting. Parenting Matters identifies parenting knowledge, attitudes, and practices associated with positive developmental outcomes in children ages 0-8; universal/preventive and targeted strategies used in a variety of settings that have been effective with parents of young children and that support the identified knowledge, attitudes, and practices; and barriers to and facilitators for parents' use of practices that lead to healthy child outcomes as well as their participation in effective programs and services. This report makes recommendations directed at an array of stakeholders, for promoting the wide-scale adoption of effective programs and services for parents and on areas that warrant further research to inform policy and practice. It is meant to serve as a roadmap for the future of parenting policy, research, and practice in the United States. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Troubled Journey Diane T. Marsh, Rex M. Dickens, 1997 As it explores the nature of illnesses such as schizophrenia, major depression, and manic depression, this definitive guide for those affected by mental illness in the family provides the tools to overcome the devastating effects of growing up in a family where they exist. A list of resources is included. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Changing Places Betty Benson Robertson, 2003 People who face the demanding task of caring for an aging parent often have no idea what to expect.Changing Places includes resources for: Organizing the care-giving processSelecting an appropriate housing optionUntangling legal and financial issuesCoping with the emotional challengesFinding help in the communityNurturing your spiritual walk in the midst of difficult timesIncludes forms, checklists, and how-to's for caring for your loved ones |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Running on Empty No More Jonice Webb, 2017-11-07 “Opens doors to richer, more connected relationships by naming the elephant in the room ‘Childhood Emotional Neglect’” (Harville Hendrix, PhD & Helen Lakelly Hunt, PhD, authors of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want). Since the publication of Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, many thousands of people have learned that invisible Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN, has been weighing on them their entire lives, and are now in the process of recovery. Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships will offer even more solutions for the effects of CEN on people’s lives: how to talk about CEN, and heal it, in relationships with partners, parents, and children. “Filled with examples of well-meaning people struggling in their relationships, Jonice Webb not only illustrates what’s missing between adults and their parents, husbands, and their wives, and parents and their children; she also explains exactly what to do about it.” —Terry Real, internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author, Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, Oprah, and The New York Times “You will find practical solutions for everyday life to heal yourself and your relationships. This is a terrific new resource that I will be recommending to many clients now and in the future!” —Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Living Without the One You Cannot Live Without Natasha Josefowitz, 2013 A book of poems to help those who have lost a loved one. Written from her heart, the author expresses her feelings after losing her husband of thirty five years. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Where Is My Mommy? Mary Kilgore, Mitchell Kilgore, Cary Pillo, 2010-01-01 A little boy who blames himself for his mother's disappearance receives reassurance from his toy soldier. Includes note to parents and caregivers on ways to help children who are experiencing abandonment. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Holding the Net Melanie P. Merriman, 2017 |
| coping with your difficult older parent: The Good Caregiver Robert L. Kane Dr., 2011-03-01 A survival guide with an insider's perspective, for the millions of unprepared caregivers of aging loved ones. As Americans are living longer, an unprecedented number of people now require long-term care during their last years. More than 15 million adult children now care for their elderly parents, and unsuspecting caregivers are usually unprepared financially, emotionally, and practically for the relentless job they will face. In The Good Caregiver, world-renowned expert on aging and long- term care Dr.Robert Kane provides a road map for caregiving. More than just a professional expert, Dr. Kane draws on his personal experience of caring for his aging mother after she struggled from a debilitating stroke. Dr. Kane offers heartfelt advice for those learning how to best care for their loved one and how to make thoughtful, informed decisions at each stage of the caring process: ? How does a nursing home differ from assisted living? ? How is a homemaker different from a home health aide? ? How far can you trust a hospital discharge planner? ? What services does Medicare cover, and much, much more The Good Caregiver equips readers to deal more effectively with the challenges of day-to-day care and to navigate the system itself, including legal, financial, and interpersonal hurdles. Filled with stories and sidebars from other caregivers, The Good Caregiver offers a candid, personal approach to caregiving, providing fearless answers to difficult scenarios with humor and encouragement. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: The Caregiving Trap Pamela D. Wilson, 2015-10-06 The Caregiving Trap combines the authentic life and professional experience of Pamela D. Wilson, who provides recommendations for overwhelmed and frustrated caregivers who themselves may one day need care. The Caregiving Trap includes stories about Pamela's actual personal and professional experience along with end of chapter exercises to support caregivers. Common caregiving issues include: A sense of duty and obligation to provide care that damages family relationships Emotional and financial challenges resulting in denial of care needs Ignorance of predictive events that result in situations of crises or harm Delayed decision making and lack of planning resulting in limited choices Minimum standards of care supporting the need for advocacy |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Adult Sibling Relationships Geoffrey L. Greif, Michael E. Woolley, 2016 An in-depth look at the challenging psychology of adult sibling interactions, with recommendations for resolving communication struggles and promoting affectionate and satisfying relationships. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Ask a Manager Alison Green, 2018-05-01 'I'm a HUGE fan of Alison Green's Ask a Manager column. This book is even better' Robert Sutton, author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide 'Ask A Manager is the book I wish I'd had in my desk drawer when I was starting out (or even, let's be honest, fifteen years in)' - Sarah Knight, New York Times bestselling author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck A witty, practical guide to navigating 200 difficult professional conversations Ten years as a workplace advice columnist has taught Alison Green that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they don't know what to say. Thankfully, Alison does. In this incredibly helpful book, she takes on the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You'll learn what to say when: · colleagues push their work on you - then take credit for it · you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email and hit 'reply all' · you're being micromanaged - or not being managed at all · your boss seems unhappy with your work · you got too drunk at the Christmas party With sharp, sage advice and candid letters from real-life readers, Ask a Manager will help you successfully navigate the stormy seas of office life. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Self-Compassion Dr. Kristin Neff, 2011-04-19 Kristin Neff, Ph.D., says that it’s time to “stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind.” Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind offers expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life. More and more, psychologists are turning away from an emphasis on self-esteem and moving toward self-compassion in the treatment of their patients—and Dr. Neff’s extraordinary book offers exercises and action plans for dealing with every emotionally debilitating struggle, be it parenting, weight loss, or any of the numerous trials of everyday living. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Coping with Critical, Demanding, and Dysfunctional Parents David M. Allen, 2018 If you have a parent who is invalidating, critical, demanding, or hateful, you need to learn how to set boundaries; uncover the hidden motives behind your parent's behavior, put a stop to repetitive, hurtful interactions, and foster healthier relationships. You may even need to remove this parent from your life, and that is a valid choice. Allen helps you put an end to toxic interactions while maintaining peace in your family. -- adapted from publisher info |
| coping with your difficult older parent: The Orphaned Adult Alexander Levy, 1999-08-03 Losing our parents when we ourselves are adults is the natural order of things, a rite of passage into true adulthood. But whether or not we have expected the death of our parents after a prolonged illness, were close to or alienated from them, this passage is inevitably harder than we thought it would be.A much needed and knowing discussion of this adult phenomenon, The Orphaned Adult validates the wide array of disorienting emotions that can accompany the death of our parents by sharing both the author's heart-felt experience of loss and the moving stories of countless adults who have shared their losses with him. From the recognition of our own mortality and sudden child-like sorrow to a sometimes-subtle change in identity or shift of roles in the surviving family, The Orphaned Adult guides readers through the storm of change this passage brings and anchors them with its compassionate and reassuring wisdom. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: The Boomer's Guide to Aging Parents Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, 2009-02 Carolyn L. Rosenblatt is a registered nurse and an attorney with over 40 years of combined experience. She has compiled her 9 volume series into this Complete Guide. It touches on dangerous older drivers, choosing home care workers and nursing homes, understanding assisted living, the specifics of handling money for aging parents, ways to manage sibling conflicts about elders, advice from a lawyer about how to choose a lawyer when your parent needs one, and knowing how a care manager can help you. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Difficult Judith R. Smith, 2024-04-02 A much-needed perspective on how to mother difficult adult children while balancing one's own needs. Difficult brings to life the conflicts that arise for mothers who are confronted with the unexpected, burdensome, and even catastrophic dependencies of their adult children associated with mental illness, substance use, or chronic unemployment. Through real stories of mothers and their challenging adult children, this book offers relatable, provocative, and, at times, shocking illustrations of the excruciating maternal dilemma: Which takes precedence--the needs of the mother or of the distressed adult child? With guidance for finding social support, staying safe, engaging in self-care, and helping the adult child, Difficult is a compassionate resource for those living in a family situation which too many keep secret and allows readers to see that they are not alone. |
| coping with your difficult older parent: Mom Minus Dad: The Essential Resource Guide for Busy Adults with a Newly Widowed Parent Jamieson Haverkampf, 2008-05-09 Mom Minus Dad is the only resource guide available with more than 500 resources for adults who lose a parent and need to assist a newly widowed parent. The book provides readers with practical advice on ten major parent loss topics along with more than 500 valuable and time-saving resources including Web sites, companies, government resources, U.S. laws, books, and nonprofit organizations to assist the approximately twelve million sons and daughters who lose a parent every year. Each section provides online and book resources and simple practical solutions to common problems - from finding affordable counseling to building new budgets for the widowed parent to managing changing family dynamics. Each chapter reveals ideas, relevant insights from the author's personal experience, questions to consider, and additional resources to find specific assistance. The author of Mom Minus Dad gleaned intimate knowledge of balancing her own life with a newly widowed parent. Ms. Haverkampf assisted her fifty-six-year-old widowed mother in Virginia, while still running her real estate business in California, after the early unpredicted loss of her father to cancer. In her groundbreaking book, Haverkampf shares how she and her sister-both in their early thirties-found success and managed struggles during their journey after their father's death. This is a reference guide grievers will refer to during the year after loss and years beyond. |
Coping - Wikipedia
Coping refers to conscious or unconscious strategies used to reduce and manage unpleasant emotions. Coping strategies can be cognitions or behaviors and can be individual or social. To …
Healthy Coping: 24 Mechanisms & Skills For Positive Coping
Apr 24, 2025 · Effective coping strategies, such as problem-solving & seeking support, help manage stress & improve wellbeing. Regularly practicing emotional regulation techniques can …
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Oct 23, 2024 · Healthy coping mechanisms are strategies or techniques used to navigate stress, like exercising, journaling, deep breathing or talking to a friend.
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Apr 19, 2025 · Coping mechanisms are behaviors that help you decrease stress and manage unpleasant emotions. These behaviors can be positive (adaptive) or negative (maladaptive). …
Coping Skills for Stress and Uncomfortable Emotions
Nov 3, 2023 · Healthy coping skills can help protect you from distress and face problems before they become more serious. By understanding the two main types of coping skills, you can …
14 healthy coping strategies and skills to cope with real life
Feb 9, 2024 · Learn how to develop better coping strategies and avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms. Plus, the 4 coping styles, including emotion-focused and problem-focused.
Coping Mechanisms: Definition, Examples, & Why They’re Important
Oct 31, 2023 · Coping mechanisms are how individuals handle stress and difficult emotions. These techniques can be either adaptive or maladaptive, meaning results can be beneficial or …
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Coping usually involves adjusting to or tolerating negative events or realities while you try to keep your positive self-image and emotional equilibrium. Coping occurs in the context of life …
Coping Mechanisms - StatPearls - NCBI Bookshelf
Apr 24, 2023 · Coping is defined as the thoughts and behaviors mobilized to manage internal and external stressful situations.[1] It is a term used distinctively for conscious and voluntary …
9 Healthy Coping Mechanisms for Stress I Psych Central
Jan 21, 2025 · Research has shown that stress can affect the body, leading to heart disease and chronic pain conditions. Finding and practicing healthy ways to cope with stress can help you …
Coping - Wikipedia
Coping refers to conscious or unconscious strategies used to reduce and manage unpleasant emotions. Coping strategies can be cognitions or behaviors and can be individual or social. To …
Healthy Coping: 24 Mechanisms & Skills For Positive Coping
Apr 24, 2025 · Effective coping strategies, such as problem-solving & seeking support, help manage stress & improve wellbeing. Regularly practicing emotional regulation techniques can …
How To Use Coping Mechanisms - Cleveland Clinic Health …
Oct 23, 2024 · Healthy coping mechanisms are strategies or techniques used to navigate stress, like exercising, journaling, deep breathing or talking to a friend.
Coping Mechanisms: Types, Uses, Interpretations - Verywell Health
Apr 19, 2025 · Coping mechanisms are behaviors that help you decrease stress and manage unpleasant emotions. These behaviors can be positive (adaptive) or negative (maladaptive). …
Coping Skills for Stress and Uncomfortable Emotions
Nov 3, 2023 · Healthy coping skills can help protect you from distress and face problems before they become more serious. By understanding the two main types of coping skills, you can …
14 healthy coping strategies and skills to cope with real life
Feb 9, 2024 · Learn how to develop better coping strategies and avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms. Plus, the 4 coping styles, including emotion-focused and problem-focused.
Coping Mechanisms: Definition, Examples, & Why They’re Important
Oct 31, 2023 · Coping mechanisms are how individuals handle stress and difficult emotions. These techniques can be either adaptive or maladaptive, meaning results can be beneficial or …
Stressors: Coping Skills and Strategies - Cleveland Clinic
Coping usually involves adjusting to or tolerating negative events or realities while you try to keep your positive self-image and emotional equilibrium. Coping occurs in the context of life …
Coping Mechanisms - StatPearls - NCBI Bookshelf
Apr 24, 2023 · Coping is defined as the thoughts and behaviors mobilized to manage internal and external stressful situations.[1] It is a term used distinctively for conscious and voluntary …
9 Healthy Coping Mechanisms for Stress I Psych Central
Jan 21, 2025 · Research has shown that stress can affect the body, leading to heart disease and chronic pain conditions. Finding and practicing healthy ways to cope with stress can help you …
